When Jasmine’s boyfriend proposed to her, he gave her a romantic extra-large size. He spent 55,000 to buy a full-page advertisement in the newspaper and wrote a love vow: “I love you, still, always, and forever.”

At that time, all the girls around were shocked and envious, wishing they could replace Jasmine and do it themselves.

However, half a year later, Jasmine went to work with a piece of gauze on her forehead. Her newlywed husband had an affair and was caught in bed by her. The husband became angry and beat her.

“Forever” for this man is probably too short.

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I met a young talent who was recognized as a lover in the circle. When he was in middle school, in order to catch up with the class girl, he turned his love letters into hand-drawn books. The workmanship was exquisite and the intentions were sincere, and he directly defeated three other love rivals. When he was in college, he became more courageous and went straight after the school beauty, playing with light and shadow graffiti. The scene was big enough and the whole school was shocked. Even the local newspaper came to interview him, and he chased the school beauty in one fell swoop.

After marrying the school beauty, he sent his wife a text message every day, which was full of disgusting love words, such as: Wife, I drove past the window of a store today and there was a doll that looked just like you. It was so delicate and beautiful. I am glad that I have met her in this life. you. His wife always thought she was living in a Korean drama.

Once I got drunk and played a truth-telling game. The young talent said that in fact, his disgusting text messages were sent in groups. In addition to his wife, he also sent them to three other lovers, and they also thought they were living in a Korean drama. “As for women, take them to romantic places such as Gulangyu Island, Lijiang, and the Maldives. The atmosphere is very aphrodisiac. After a trip, they will be more loyal than dogs. However, the annoying thing is that dogs will not always ask you if you will live forever. I only love her.”

It doesn’t matter how scumbag this young talent is. What I want to say is that women often make a mistake. You think that men are using their feelings for you in these romantic tricks. In fact, they are just using techniques. Maybe it’s not because he is too affectionate, but because he is eager for quick success and quick gains. He just wants to use some quick methods to coax you into bed. Compared with persevering in giving every day, roses, love words, and candlelight dinners are so trouble-free and efficient.

So every time I see some earth-shattering proposal in the news, I stay surprisingly calm. The point is not how cool the proposal is, but whether it is consistent after marriage.

When I went on a business trip to the United States, there was a business man traveling with me. He was taciturn, boring, and looked like a dull man. Other men went to watch a striptease show together, but he was the only one who seriously asked another girl: You just said that in the mall next to you, there is a brand of shoes that are particularly easy to wear, right? I want to buy a pair of good walking shoes for my wife. Then he dived into the mall to choose shoes.

The next day, the foodie tour guide took us to a super authentic seafood restaurant. Everyone was immersed in the lobster and couldn’t help themselves. Only Mr. Dumbou took pictures of the menu seriously. I asked him what he was doing. He said that he wanted to write down the name of this restaurant and bring his wife to eat next time.

This is the Saint of Love, okay? Loving someone does not necessarily have to be sensational or earth-shattering, but that he will naturally think of you every moment. He won’t say anything frivolous, but he will do every little thing for you down-to-earth.

Love is just a detail.

If a man really loves you, his every move will be based on your needs. He doesn’t need to deliberately play any tricks or show off any skills. His love will last forever.

A female friend complained to me that her husband didn’t understand romance at all and didn’t even know how to give her a bouquet of roses on their wedding anniversary. I got angry on the spot: You have already made a lot of money, okay?—— Her husband clearly remembers her menstrual cycle, so he makes crucian carp soup for her in advance every month; because she is sensitive to condoms, after she gave birth to the baby, the old princess took the initiative to have a sterilization… Compared with these , what is a rose?

Only the romance that is tailor-made for you is the highest level of romance. The so-called chocolates, roses, and diamonds are just secular recognition, marketing by merchants, and praise from others. Do you really like them? I admit, I’m old and don’t even bother to celebrate Valentine’s Day. Why should others dictate which days I should be especially affectionate? Do I have to go out stupidly and use prescribed actions to prove or even show off that I am loved?

What’s more, I have no interest in the fairy tale romance of setting off fireworks, watching stars, and writing “I love you” on the beach. I even feel very silly.

What I like is the trivial details and the little thoughtfulness of my mother-in-law and mother. Any romance that doesn’t rise to the level of daily necessities is not really romantic.

I really like the little story on the Internet: I saw a couple quarreling, the girl lost her temper, threw her bag and ran away. She rushed out not far, slowed down and walked a few steps before looking back. The man was not in a hurry, picked up the bag and walked slowly behind. Passing by a pancake stand, the man stopped and shouted to the girl: How many eggs do you want to add? The answer not far away: Two…

This is the highest level of romance.