In a way, being single is almost a crime.

Arrogance.

Arrogance is often found in those naturally beautiful single people.

They never take the initiative in love, as they feel it’s beneath their status.

Jealousy.

Or you can call it “vanity”.

Some single folks, despite having plenty of opportunities to find a partner, often hesitate and end up missing out.

Rage.

Someone who easily gets angry can never find a partner. Even Shakespeare said so.

Laziness.

Laziness can be divided into three levels.

The first level is untidiness.

Untidiness is prevalent in this era, especially among single women who are somewhat afflicted by it.

The second level of laziness is decadence.

Decadence is internal untidiness.

The third level of laziness is “too lazy to love”.

Common among experienced single folks.

Greed.

The greedy are often experts in love. They constantly seek satisfaction and are never content.

Gluttony.

Being excessively overweight will never lead to a good future.

Lust.

In reality, apart from love, there are plenty of ways in this world to satisfy one’s lust, to the extent of ecstasy and death.

However, love happens to be the most troublesome way because it carries responsibility. It not only stirs the kidneys but also the heart.

Every single person has more or less these seven deadly sins.

Actually, most of the reasons why most girls are single can be summed up in the following sentences.

Their standards are high, but their abilities don’t measure up.

They lack the conditions for long-term affection or the opportunity for love at first sight.

Loving themselves takes precedence over loving others.

From another perspective, it can be summed up in the following 8 points.

One

Having the “I don’t have a boyfriend anyway, so I’ll just dress casually as no one will notice” attitude.

They think it’s alright to slack off in every aspect when they get used to being single, thus lowering their external charm and self-image.

A woman’s external image is very important, and men are constantly observing everyone’s attire and appearance.

Two

Working in an environment where “wolves are many but the meat is scarce”.

It’s a pity. Some women studied in liberal arts schools, and after graduation, they had little time for romance. In this environment, they have fewer opportunities to meet men. Even if they have a high income, they can’t enjoy a love life.

If you don’t even see men, how can you find a boyfriend?

So, learning how to gather male resources has become a necessary skill for you now.

Three

The “lack of experience makes me too afraid to take the initiative” mentality.

Some people have the chance to socialize with different circles and often meet excellent boys through friends. However, most women are too passive and miss out on these opportunities.

The saying goes: “Opportunity favors the prepared mind.”

Maybe your friends are trying to introduce you to a boyfriend, but your passive attitude causes you to miss the chance. Most men are not good at taking the initiative, so if you want them to approach you, strengthen your initiative and get to know them actively.

Four

The “once bitten, twice shy” and “don’t know where to start” sense of helplessness.

If you are just a little luckier than others and meet someone you like, but fail to develop the relationship, it’s a sad situation.

Why did it turn out this way? Because you don’t know how to pursue a man.

In the right situation, you need to use the right method to move the relationship in the right direction.

Pursuing a man is a great skill.

If you use the wrong method, it not only fails to advance the relationship but may even lead to a breakup.

So, not knowing how to pursue a man and not being able to advance the relationship appropriately leads to a predictable outcome.

At this point, you can only console yourself with “meeting the right person at the wrong time”, “letting time prove true love will come on its own”.

But we all know that if you don’t make an effort and just wait for something to happen, you’ll end up being an old spinster sooner or later.

Five

The “I’m just naturally a boring person” and lack of social sensitivity mentality.

Because of your naturally introverted nature, you lack social skills, not only with women but also with men.

But we all know that in this materialistic and fast-paced society, emotional intelligence has long surpassed intelligence in importance.

Whether at work or in social situations, you need certain social and communication skills.

Men, who are reliable, need to be communicated with, and it’s essential to interact with them.

For most men, material satisfaction is not enough. They also need a good listener for when they want to talk and find some emotional comfort.

So, if you are not good at communication, even if you are financially well-off, you are not a qualified listener to them.

So, in order to be a good listener to the one you admire, try expressing your emotions!

Six

The “I’m extremely shortsighted when it comes to love and social interactions” mentality.

Can you tell if a man is showing interest in you or not?

If a man tells you, “It’s okay, I can do it myself,” do you really let him do it himself?

This is true for both men and women; they hope the opposite sex will accommodate them unconditionally at such times, to gain a sense of satisfaction.

Many people are unclear about whether a man truly likes them and the stage of their relationship. This lack of clarity leads to not knowing how to progress, resulting in a stagnant relationship.

Often, once the infatuation period is over, ambivalent relationships gradually fade and become dull.

So, if you are not sensitive enough to judge the stage of a relationship or to grasp the right time to move from being friends to lovers, you will end up in the pitiable situation of “friendship first, love later.”

Seven

The “liking a guy means silently admiring him without showing affection” mindset of being honest.

Do you often hear your friends say you’re kind and friendly, especially your male friends?

This kind of information indicates that the other person is interested in you, otherwise, why would they waste time on you?

So, if you like a guy, don’t secretly admire him. Try to test the waters and gradually encourage him to confess to you.

Nowadays, isn’t it often said that “men don’t love good women”?

I don’t mean being honest is bad, but sometimes you need to be flexible.

Being kind is good, but it doesn’t always work when pursuing boys.

The experts are often “bad girls”. The so-called art of pursuing men, making men fall for you, is just a part of the “dating and courtship” studies.

Eight

The “being with a man means dull company” and lack of interesting mindset.

Often, the reason you can’t find a boyfriend is very simple: you don’t know how to create an atmosphere when interacting with the opposite sex.

Do you worry about awkward silences when alone with a man?

Indeed, if there are awkward silences, women will lose points in a man’s mind.

If you can pursue men, it’s a different story.

Women’s inherent gender advantage means that if you master the art of pursuit, you can ensnare any man.

According to relationship analysis, not only women but also many men prefer to be with a humorous and interesting woman. These women are more likely to be favored and pursued by men.

If you are not humorous enough and can’t capture a man’s interest, you might come across as dull.

So, the problem can be answered in this way.

Indeed, many studies have shown that people in stable intimate relationships are happier than singles, leading to singleness being seen as a “suboptimal state of health”.

However, just as unhappy couples exist, there are also happy and content single individuals. They have their own satisfying lives.

Social psychology research has found that those who truly enjoy being single are just as happy as those in stable intimate relationships. They avoid many disputes and injuries, making them happier than those in conflicting love relationships.

So, accepting yourself is the first step to getting out of singlehood.