“Since you are married, visit home less often in the future, don’t cause trouble for the family.”

Fri, 14 Aug 2026 00:00:00 +0000

Bacon once said, “In a happy family, parents lead with love, and children obey the elders out of love for their parents.”

Although the concept of favoring sons over daughters no longer exists in today’s fast-paced era, it’s undeniable that such thinking can have a significant impact on a family.

Just as both palms are flesh, parents should treat their children equally. Only when the scales are balanced can a family become more harmonious.

Voltaire once said, “Every family has a lot of hypocritical warmth.”

Not long ago, a friend sent me a letter with the following content:

My husband and I have been married for five years. Initially, my parents did not approve of our marriage because they thought he lacked money and power, and I would suffer after marrying him.

He was in his twenties at that time, so it was normal for him to lack money. I was willing to work hard with him. Despite my parents’ objections, I married him.

Now, after five years together, our life is getting better. However, the conflicts between me and my family are deepening. Besides me, I have an elder brother and a younger brother. I am the second child. My parents favor my brothers and often neglect me, leaving me envious on the side.

Back then, our family’s living conditions were not good. So, the opportunity for education was given to my brothers, while I had to help with farm work at home.

I started working at a young age and sent money home every month. My parents hoped I would marry someone wealthy for a better life. I couldn’t understand their thoughts. I didn’t want my marriage to be confined by them or defined by them.

Later, I met my current husband, and we have a great relationship.

We met through work. He is two years older than me and takes good care of me in daily life. When I was alone outside, he accompanied me. I’m grateful to him. Apart from wanting money, my parents rarely cared about my life.

My parents strongly opposed my marriage. They thought I was selfish. Despite their objections, I still got married to him.

On our wedding day, my only regret was that my parents couldn’t be there to bless me.

After getting married, my husband understood me well. He often accompanies me to visit my parents. Initially, he brought many gifts when visiting, but my parents not only rejected them but also said hurtful words. This put my husband in a difficult position, but he understood me well.

Our visits home became less frequent over time due to work reasons. Usually, we could only go back during holidays or Chinese New Year. This year, when I went home and bought new clothes and many gifts for my parents, I still couldn’t see smiles on their faces.

Now, both my brothers are married, and when we are all together, it’s lively. However, while cooking in the kitchen, my mother suddenly said something that made me feel very aggrieved. She said, “Since you are married, visit home less often in the future to avoid causing trouble for the family.” Honestly, when I heard this, I felt really upset.

I didn’t expect such words to come from my mother.

It seems that my mother’s favoritism towards sons over daughters still hasn’t changed. I feel it’s unfair the way she treats me. However, I still gritted my teeth and said to my mother, “Okay, Mom.”

Since then, I have rarely visited home because I feel no happiness when I return.

Listening to her story, many people might feel sympathetic. In real life, every family has its own troubles, and favoring sons over daughters can indeed have a significant impact on a family.

Especially for girls, if they receive unfair treatment in their family, it can greatly affect their lives.

For Parents

Parents are the core of a family. For parents, in family life, they should treat their children equally. Only when each child is treated fairly can a family be more harmonious.

The significance of parents in a child’s growth is immense. Parental education and attitude towards children will also affect the children’s future lifestyle.

Children Lacking Love Feel Insecure

Emerson once said, “The family is the father’s kingdom, the mother’s world, and the child’s paradise.”

Why do some people struggle with their emotional issues in adulthood? Fundamentally, it’s due to the influence of their original family.

Family can have the most significant impact on a person’s life. Lucky individuals are healed from childhood throughout their lives, while unlucky ones spend their lives healing from childhood. Therefore, the happiness of a family often determines a person’s way of life.

If a person does not feel loved in their family life, they will lack a sense of security in their life.

When a family wants to harvest more happiness, love and fairness are indispensable. A family with love will be harmonious. If children are not treated fairly due to favoring sons over daughters, family life will not be perfect.

Parents should give children more understanding and empathy. A happy and harmonious family is the greatest joy for everyone.

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“Since you are married, visit home less often in the future, don’t cause trouble for the family.”

For Parents

Children Lacking Love Feel Insecure