Insights from a 33-Year-Old Single Man: Satisfying the Expectations of Older Single Women and Pursuing Younger Women is Not Difficult
My cousin often says, “If you can meet the expectations of older unmarried women, then pursuing younger women is not difficult, because younger women are easier to pursue than older unmarried women.”
My cousin is 33 years old and has been single until now due to various reasons such as work and personality. He is not doing too badly in terms of material conditions, owning a house and a car with a monthly salary of over $7000, which is average, not bad but not exceptional.
Recently, I was introduced to two women for blind dates. One is a 32-year-old woman with a decent job and conditions. The other is a 26-year-old woman with slightly inferior conditions, but she also has her advantages, one being her youth.
The biggest feeling after interacting with these two women is that older unmarried women seem to have higher material expectations and tend to be hot and cold, giving off the feeling of being indifferent. Younger women, on the other hand, are more enthusiastic, and it feels different pursuing them. Indeed, younger women are indeed easier to pursue than older unmarried women.
Older Women Don’t Lower Their Standards Due to Age
Many people believe that older unmarried women, due to their diminishing advantages as they age, might lower their requirements and standards. This is a misconception. Women do not lower their requirements due to age; in fact, they become more selective as they age.
If a woman remains single into her thirties, it shows that she doesn’t mind being single. Anyone willing to lower their standards would have married long ago. Most unmarried women have decent overall conditions, education, jobs, and can support themselves financially, so they won’t settle for just anyone.
Women would rather stay single than be with someone inferior to them, so pursuing such women is particularly challenging. It becomes evident that unmarried women in their thirties are much harder to pursue than those in their twenties.
Why Are Older Unmarried Women Hard to Pursue?
- It’s Difficult to Pursue Because They Become Unmarried Women
It’s difficult to pursue unmarried women of any age, even when they are young. It’s because they are difficult to pursue that they become unmarried women. Those who are easy to pursue would have been pursued and married early on. When the difficult-to-pursue individuals are gathered together, it becomes obvious that unmarried women are difficult to pursue.
- They Have Experience and Are Not Easily Fooled
Younger women are relatively naive and tend to believe in romance. They can be easily persuaded by a cup of milk tea, a movie, or a few sweet words.
On the other hand, unmarried women in their thirties have more life experience and are not easily fooled. They have clear demands and are not easily convinced. It’s hard to win them over with sweet talk. Without material conditions, there is no chance of getting close to them.
- With Age Comes Less Urgency
I have always felt that women in their late twenties seem more anxious as they are afraid of turning thirty and become anxious.
However, after turning 30, they seem less anxious. Since they are already unmarried, they are not willing to marry just anyone. It is scarier to marry the wrong person than to not get married, so older women are more cautious about marriage.
Younger Women Are Easier to Pursue, But Not Necessarily Easier to Marry
- Younger Women Are Easier to Pursue, But Not Necessarily Easier to Marry
Experienced individuals will find that younger women are easier to pursue than older unmarried women, but that doesn’t necessarily mean they are easier to marry.
I have interacted with some younger women as well.
Some of them are still young and are not in a hurry to get married. They hope to date for a few years before getting married. They can afford to do that, but for older individuals, time is not on their side. Speed and decisiveness are important factors in blind dates for older individuals.
Younger women are also not mature in their thinking and are more carefree. They believe they should have fun while they are young and have no intention of settling down. Older individuals don’t have as much time or money to indulge in such activities. Young people don’t care about money and are willing to spend it freely, but as you age, you’ll feel it’s too extravagant.
- Unmarried Women Have Marriage as Their Goal
It is said that unmarried women have high standards because they are looking to get married. They are more selective and demanding when looking for a marriage partner. Therefore, their criteria are even stricter than when selecting a partner for a romantic relationship.
Marriage and romance are completely different. In a romantic relationship, as long as both are happy, it’s good. Marriage requires a material basis, and the couple must consider their life after marriage. So, women who make demands are genuinely looking to get married. If a woman makes no demands, you shouldn’t be too happy, as she may not be looking to get married at all.
Older unmarried men should be more rational when dealing with older unmarried women and younger women. First, they need to be clear about what they want and what is most important at the moment in order to make better choices.