Successful men are never short of women around them, and their search for a partner never stops. To be the woman behind a successful man, you must have strong mental resilience, be able to withstand loneliness, and resist temptation.

Generally, successful men prefer three types of women:

1. Be a woman with grace, not just efficiency.

In other words, be a proud woman. This type of woman can easily lure men just by her actions or eye contact. This charm is different from being efficient. Sometimes women may think being efficient is attractive, but men actually dislike such women.

2. Be able to express your opinions clearly without imposing them on others.

“I like spaghetti,” “What do you think of action movies?” This type of woman can clearly express her opinions while also listening to the man’s views and pretending to comply. Women with an “I like everything” attitude are not favored. Men love women who are honest about their preferences.

3. Be passionate about work and enjoy leisure activities.

Men don’t like women who are idle all day and burden them, nor do they like workaholics without any zest for life.

Look, being the ideal woman requires a lot of effort! You need to be branded both on the outside and the inside. The saying “A serious woman is the most beautiful” is very true. By working hard and earnestly to improve yourself inside and out, you’ll soon be closer to your ideal partner. Let’s do it together.

“Staying in a place full of women, of course, you won’t know where the men are. Don’t always think that you’ll meet a man just by working hard. That’s just a fantasy. Step out of this circle and you’ll see how many women are desperately seeking a good man. Outstanding men are limited, and positive women will surely get them first. Don’t complain about the lack of men like a fool while waiting passively.” Her blunt words were like a stab to my chest.

Right, outstanding men are limited, and positive women will surely get them first. Ironically, I can’t find these limited men anymore, and I don’t know why. Is it possible that only those with outdated glasses and beer bellies are left? It sends shivers down my spine just thinking about it.

The most practical six ways to find a boyfriend:

1. Seek help from classmates working in good companies.

Being almost thirty and still not finding a good boyfriend often leads women to ponder, “What have I been doing all this time?” In such situations, blind dates are the only solution. It’s best if the matchmaker is a friend or classmate working in a better company. Her company will surely have male colleagues she thinks highly of. If the classmate already has a boyfriend, she can at least introduce someone to you. If you’re hesitant to suddenly call your classmate and ask for her help in finding a boyfriend, then start maintaining your friendship with her from now on.

2. Don’t easily define relationships.

Karen has been working for many years but has never had a boyfriend. Recently, her friend mentioned a “younger brother” she knew, so the three of them met. Karen wasn’t initially interested in younger men, but after meeting him, he would often call her after work, claiming to be near her office. She refused several times with excuses like “there’s a company dinner” or “I’ve already made plans,” but eventually called him to apologize and invite him to dinner. She thought it would just be a simple meal, but they ended up going to two other places. Eventually, they became a couple at lightning speed. Her casual definition of relationships was completely wrong. Actually, all the men around you could potentially be yours.

3. Clubs have their own advantages.

If interests are fish and boyfriends are bear paws, then single women should first knock on the doors of various clubs. However, not all clubs are the same. Don’t join clubs full of horny wolves; join clubs that interest you and where you can find the man of your dreams. This will prevent wasted time. Xiaoli heard that the skiing club had many handsome men, so she eagerly joined, despite not knowing how to ski. However, she ended up injuring her back during a club skiing event and spent a lot on hospital bills. Last spring, she joined an ice skating club and finally met “a well-built man with a good personality.”

When choosing a club, steer clear of those with many members but few activities, like “20-year-old white-collar socializing” and “white-collar gatherings”. Instead, focus on clubs with strict membership management and many activities, like jazz, wine, and musical clubs. Always remember that handsome men are often found where there are many women. So, before joining a club, make sure to thoroughly review the personal information of its female members.

4. Accept introductions from elders.

Martha, at 29, still hadn’t found a boyfriend. It was her mother’s friend who introduced her to her current boyfriend. As it wasn’t a friend’s introduction, she initially felt a lot of pressure, but she couldn’t refuse her elders and decided to reluctantly meet him. But contrary to her expectations, she found that they got along very well in terms of personality, interests, and everything else. They are still happily in love.

If you’re dissatisfied with the people introduced by your parents or other elders and don’t know how to say it, then it’s best to correct your attitude from now on. If you’re not satisfied, just tell your elders directly, “That person doesn’t seem like the type I’m looking for. But thank you for your effort.” Then smile and that should be enough.

5. Reconnect with former boyfriends.

Rachel is getting married to her former boyfriend next month. The two of them broke up due to trivial arguments but stayed in touch with each other’s friends. They met again and rekindled their relationship. At first, they were afraid of breaking up again, so they paid more attention to each other. If the other person dislikes something, then you should pay more attention. Later, they became very comfortable with each other. Just because he’s an ex-boyfriend, doesn’t mean he’s off the list. You should continue to maintain your relationship, even if it’s weak. “If you’re free, let’s go for a drink together.” That’s the wise thing to do.

6. Frequent places where men gather.

Florence always ran on the treadmill at home alone. Later, she wanted to try various weight training exercises, so she went to the gym and found a boyfriend there. She was very interested in chest exercises (because men are always fascinated by women’s chests), so she was enthusiastic about the equipment for chest training, and ended up chatting with a muscular man. If you just run on the treadmill with earphones on or attend belly-dancing classes for women, will you be able to fall in love with that muscular man?

Opportunities are found and created by yourself. Aside from patiently waiting for fate, you should also create opportunities to meet new friends and actively step out to attract fate more quickly!