Marriage is not just about companionship, but also a sense of security, trust, reliance, and responsibility of “being devoted to you for life.”
The purpose of marriage is not to hurt each other, but to fulfill the grand vow of “never parting in this life.” After marriage, the couple can only belong to each other and cannot have any second thoughts. This is not only a basic requirement of marriage, but also a display of a person’s basic conscience.
The so-called “everlasting love and harmonious union” is not just empty talk, but a solemn pledge made to heaven and earth in front of family and friends. This pledge is always weighty, requiring one’s own personality and dignity as a guarantee, and the couple’s lifelong protection of each other!
Only a couple with a shared vision and purpose can truly understand each other. Only a couple who truly understand each other can live up to the vows they made. Otherwise, those who violate the vows of marriage may end up tripping over their own lies!
Those who first betray and fall out of love have not truly experienced love. Regardless of how much “genuine love” they claim to have, in the eyes of others, they have lost the dignity of being a “person.”
Conscientious couples will not have extramarital affairs, nor become the lover of a third party. Even if they no longer love each other, they will use reasonable means to divorce, rather than having an affair from the start. They will not defile their own souls and dignity with such dirty means and bestial behavior!
Everyone should believe that those who have affairs not only hurt their partners, but also defile their own dignity!
Love is about commitment between couples; those who lack commitment have defiled the purity of “love.” Those who violate the “sole” nature of love will not receive love!
Although many people often say, “I might have loved the wrong person, or married the wrong person. Even though many people may feel “regret” about marriage, and feel that marriage is not very happy. Even though many people believe they have the right to choose their own path in life. From the perspective of marriage, these are all normal emotions, as there are no perfect marriages in this world, so it is normal to have regrets.
However, “regret” and “freedom” are not excuses for having an affair; they are just reasons for divorce!
If you can’t bear it, then just get a divorce. Everything has a proper order; the sequence is very important! Those who have an affair before divorcing are definitely seen very differently from those who divorce before starting a new relationship! One is like a beast, the other is a person of conscience!
There’s a saying, that has been said many times and cannot be refuted!
If you want a divorce and don’t want to continue, why not just get a divorce? Leave clearly and openly, be straightforward, and that would be so much better, wouldn’t it?
Why resort to an affair and extramarital affairs, filthy means to repeatedly hurt your innocent partner?
Are you sure you can clear your conscience of this “harm” you’ve caused to your partner? You have completely destroyed someone’s dignity, and can you really clear this just by getting a divorce?
In fact, those who have secret affairs not only hurt their partners, but also harm their own future!
Those who truly love you will protect you, rather than allow you to have an affair in marriage or be a third party. They wouldn’t want to ruin your family, nor force you to divorce! Otherwise, can you be sure that your lover really loves you? That’s not love, but harm!
Even if your “true love” wants to be with you, even if your lover truly loves you, they would wait until you initiate the divorce before being with you, rather than making you betray your family first, and making you a sinner in marriage and love.
So, the “true love” gained through affairs does not conform to the creed of faithful love; it’s not realistic! Someone who can betray their original family would be trusted by your lover? Can your lover really have absolute confidence in you?
How is that possible?
Someone who can easily have an affair is not worthy of anyone’s love. Even if two people are lovers, they will be wary of each other and feel the other is dirty! If they couldn’t keep their promises in the lasting and legitimate marriage and family they once promised, then in today’s extramarital affairs, where is there so much loyal and faithful love?
Isn’t this simple truth clear?
I have collected and reported data on many extramarital affair cases and have interviewed many men and women who have had affairs. Not only have I interviewed them, but I have also reviewed many files at work and consulted several experienced colleagues in the field of marriage.
You have to admit that in today’s population of people having affairs, about 80% of men and 20% of women are not in it for love; they are simply using their lover’s emotions, treating them like toys!
I remember, one man who had an affair said, “What true love? It’s all just toying with her. A lover is just a toy, she even dares to betray her own husband, so why should I believe her? If I marry her, maybe she will betray me in the future. I have self-awareness, I’m not stupid, I don’t want to live in suspense all the time. While she’s being foolish, while she’s still infatuated with me, I’ll pursue her. She’s willing and available, so why not? If she gets tired of it one day, I’ll find an opportunity to kick her out. I still love my wife; a lover is just a mutual use.”
From an emotional perspective, such men are extremely evil. Of course, their presence justly punishes those who have had affairs!
On the other hand, although few women say this explicitly, some women are still using men’s emotions to deceive them.
I once statistically analyzed 1,000 cases and found that about two out of ten women who had affairs were specifically toying with emotions, rather than falling in love with their lovers!
As for those women who are infatuated with their lovers, their endings are generally very sad. Although there is a certain probability of successfully rising in status, and a certain probability of successfully forming a family and marrying their lover, in the long run, the man will likely still have affairs with other women, which is highly probable. At that time, the woman who was once infatuated with her lover will live in torment.
After all, it’s not just about how they hurt their partner, or the price they pay for harming their marriage. Even the impact on themselves is immeasurable!
Those who have affairs within marriage, those who become the lover of another, not only lack a conscience, but they also ruin their own dignity. Over time, they will ruin their marriage, their family, and their future.
We often say: A truly good couple is not afraid of a temporary separation at this moment, but fears that they will fall out of love in the future. They are not afraid of the temporary pain of divorce, but fear that the other may be unfaithful behind their back.
In extramarital affairs, the most terrifying and heartbreaking thing is not the exposure of the truth! It’s when after the truth is revealed, the person who had an affair dares to act self-righteously, refuses to admit fault, and repeatedly humiliates their innocent partner!
This is a despicable phenomenon, always cruel and heartless! Many people have been deeply hurt and pained, yet they still persist in their marriage! Ask those who have had an affair, how can they bear to hurt the person who loves them?
A colleague once said: A good marriage is built through the joint efforts of the couple. Without the participation of either person, it’s a crippled marriage. As long as one spark appears, the marriage will inevitably encounter problems. As long as one person has a wandering eye, this marriage will definitely not stay peaceful! Therefore, couples must not have a wandering eye.
However, the reality is that in recent years, many couples are easily harboring secret intentions.
They have both lived once, they are both human. Some people have had countless affairs, divorced several times, abandoned several people who sincerely loved them, and have been a lover to several people. Yet, some people can have one lifelong commitment, until old age.
Why is there such a big difference between people? Why do marriages have such extreme outcomes? This is a question worth pondering.
But there is a saying that is true: What kind of person one is will determine the outcome of their love life. The attitude you have towards love will determine the kind of marriage you have.
Those who cannot hold on to themselves will also be unable to hold on to the marriage they stole! Even if they successfully rise in status, there won’t be much loyal love in the future.
The success or failure of a marriage doesn’t need much explanation, big data doesn’t lie. Those who have affairs know the truth about how things really are, how happy they truly are, and whether they have found true love. It can be said that after having an affair, very few people truly feel happy!
Good couples can get divorced and still have a happy future. However, for those who have had affairs within marriage, it’s becoming increasingly difficult to find a real footing in love in today’s world.
Men and women, please understand these points: Having an affair is habitual; if someone can have an affair with you, they can do the same with someone else! If you have no feelings for your original partner, you may lose feelings for your lover in the future. Likewise, your lover may also abandon you!
Being able to steal someone else’s marriage doesn’t make you powerful; it’s because what you stole is only a scoundrel. That scoundrel can abandon their other half, and in the future, may be stolen by someone else and abandon you.
Couples without loyalty will certainly not have a good future. To have a good marriage, the most important thing is to stay true to yourself and not have an affair, not even once. Staying away from extramarital affairs is the only way to honor love, yourself, and the future.