Many people can’t understand why two people in love can grow apart. The vows and promises are still fresh in your mind, but he says he doesn’t love you anymore.

Sometimes you’re confused about why the other person is leaving you. They refuse to answer your calls, break up with you without explanation, even if you once loved each other deeply.

In reality, it’s not that hard to know if someone truly loves you. The one who loves you might not always say “I love you,” but they will talk to you about these things regularly.

Those who don’t love you, even if they say “I love you” a thousand times, if they don’t discuss these things, they might not love you that much.

Feelings

A friend once said that after three years of marriage, her husband, who was always quiet, became even more silent.

Most of the time, he would sit alone in the dark, smoking. When you try to approach him, he just says, “It’s nothing.”

She used to think that a man who speaks less is good to avoid arguments. But if you can’t even argue with each other, and there’s nothing to say, it’s really painful.

She always believed that lovers should talk about everything, share their worries and joys, seeking comfort and joy together.

A man who is unwilling to confide in his partner undoubtedly has reservations about the relationship.

The friend revealed that before they got married, her husband had a memorable relationship that didn’t work out for some reason. The breakup hit him hard, and it took a long time for him to open up to new feelings.

She used to think that someone faithful in love is the most reliable. But after marrying him, she realized that he was only faithful to his ex, keeping her in his heart forever.

He never allows himself to get close, let alone reveal his inner thoughts. He handles everything on his own, never giving her a chance to express her opinion.

The one who loves you will share their joys and sorrows with you, even their vulnerabilities.

A man who keeps secrets from you doesn’t value you that much in his heart.

Marriage

In real life, many couples of marriageable age have men who use “focusing on their career” as an excuse to delay marriage, claiming they are not ready yet.

In reality, these men might not love you that much. Someone who truly loves you will start planning your life together when you are with them. Marriage usually becomes a natural progression.

If he truly loves you, even if the conditions aren’t perfect now, he will talk about marriage with you openly. He will never avoid discussing it with you.

If he never mentions marriage, it’s because he doesn’t want to take responsibility for you. He might not love you that much.

Future

When they first started dating, he talked about his future plans, aiming to buy a house within two years, ensuring you wouldn’t feel pressured to live with him.

At that time, I teased him, saying we just started dating, and he’s already thinking about our future life. But he looked serious and said, “I’ve already decided that you are the woman I want to spend my life with, so I don’t want to make you uncomfortable.”

Looking at his earnest expression, I told myself that I didn’t make a mistake in choosing him; he was indeed the man worthy of my love.

Only someone who truly loves you will discuss future plans with you. Those who don’t love you won’t include you in their plans.

He is a man of action more than words. He plans things thoroughly even before I think about them. He makes me feel like a child again when I’m with him, although he doesn’t tolerate my laziness.

He always encourages me wholeheartedly when I face challenges at work, never promising to “take care of me,” as he knows I wouldn’t believe it, and he wouldn’t want that either.

He believes a woman’s greatest charm is to be her true self, even if she stays at home full-time, she should remain an independent individual.

Love is not that complicated. You can tell if someone loves you by their actions and words.

Those who constantly sweet-talk you may not truly love you. Those who shower you with money may not necessarily prioritize you in their hearts.

Many women tend to focus on surface gestures when it comes to love, moved by actions that anyone can do without involving principles.

Love built on illusions will eventually collapse. She might not believe it, but the man who made vows to her has already made a commitment to someone else.

To know if a man truly loves you, put these “two words” on the table and observe his next steps. If he loves you, he won’t avoid these questions.