Recently, I came across this piece of news:

There was a wealthy boss who made his fortune by recycling trash when he was young.

Despite starting from collecting garbage, he seized the business opportunity in trash, eventually becoming a successful businessman with four houses.

After becoming rich, he treated his wife well. However, his wife only cared about his money and played tricks behind his back. When the man noticed this, he divorced her.

But she refused to divorce him, so he found a younger mistress and started a new life with her.

This mistress was 29 years younger than the man and bore him a son.

However, the man reconciled with his wife later, leaving the mistress and her son homeless.

Sometimes, when you date someone much older, you may feel secure and completely conquered, only to end up abandoned.

So, someone asked:

“Is it true that in relationships with older husbands and younger wives, it’s the women who suffer?”

Here are the responses from three women.

When Husband Leaves, Woman is Left Helpless

The first woman said that if a young woman marries a significantly older man and he passes away, she would be left completely helpless.

If your husband is much older than you, after many years of marriage, if he deteriorates and eventually passes away, the woman would feel extremely lonely and devastated both emotionally and physically.

Thus, the first woman believes that ultimately, it’s women who endure the hardships, facing dual torment mentally and physically.

She made a valid point. Remember the character in the TV drama “Da Zhai Men” who married a man over 40 years older and was left destitute after his death.

When this daughter found herself destitute, she went to her family for help with her young son, only to find her father could no longer make decisions and had forgotten everything.

At that moment, the sister-in-law took out five dollars and gave it to the daughter. It was then that the daughter felt a deep sense of bitterness and helplessness.

Whether in real life or in movies, being with a significantly older man often leads to tragedy.

Because time is unforgiving. If a man much older than you passes away one day, imagine the loneliness and helplessness that follows.

Even though society is more open now and women can earn well, imagine being 30 with a man 40 years older who suddenly passes away, leaving you with kids to raise. How would a woman cope with that?

Therefore, in relationships with older husbands and younger wives, it’s ultimately the women who suffer.

Inheritance Not Always for the Younger Women

A few years ago, I worked in another city. I worked in a steamed bun shop where the boss’s wife happened to be from my hometown, and we got along well.

Later, I found out that the boss’s wife had intervened in someone else’s marriage and became the man’s legal wife.

The boss’s wife said:

Although she legally inherited her husband’s wealth when he passed away, his children divided all the assets, leaving her with nothing.

She had no choice but to open a small steamed bun shop to make a living.

She also mentioned that despite giving birth to a son, many doubted the child was her husband’s. They took her to court, and even though the child was proven to be his, she lost due to the overwhelming opposition.

So, don’t think marrying an older, wealthier man guarantees a secure life. It’s not uncommon for men in their fifties, who have been married before, to come with their own set of problems.

Sometimes, don’t rely on luck. In this world, many are selfish. Even siblings fight over inheritance, let alone a younger wife like you.

Women Get Looked Down Upon

The third woman expressed that people around her look down on women who couldn’t find a better partner and settled for an old man.

Seeing her friends with handsome husbands, she realized her mistake.

She admitted that when she married, she didn’t think much, believing that love was enough. After marriage, she realized the man was attracted to her youth, leading to their union.

She dared not speak out as her parents and those around her would not understand and would mock her, leaving her no choice but to endure silently.

After marriage, the husband didn’t want children, fearing added responsibilities.

Sometimes, men marry younger women not out of love but to fulfill certain needs. Having a young wife boosts their ego, which is why they do it.

In the end, it’s women who suffer in relationships with older husbands. The above are the responses of three women.

Therefore, when women seek a partner, it’s best to find someone of similar age, though not necessarily the same age. It’s okay if they are a year or two older.

However, being with someone 40 or 50 years older can bring many challenges after marriage.

So, as a woman, don’t treat marriage lightly. Find someone who loves and respects you. Even if life might be tougher, it will be more fulfilling in the long run.