No one can truly let go of someone they loved, but letting go doesn’t mean they didn’t love. Throughout history, there have been more devoted people than indifferent ones. I think being devoted is not embarrassing; on the contrary, it’s particularly charming. But everything should be in moderation. It’s not advisable to indulge excessively in a relationship with no future.
Do you ever experience a situation where a certain scene or scent triggers memories of the sweet moments from your past relationship? Regardless of whether it was a passionate or ordinary experience, it’s not easy to forget when you have loved. How can you easily forget what has happened?
Sometimes you may think you have forgotten because they are no longer part of your life, and there’s no way to contact them. But when you get drunk, fall ill, or encounter someone who resembles them, they come back to your mind. It’s because deep down inside, they are still there. You haven’t forgotten them, nor have you truly let go of your love for each other.
Loving someone is like owning a piece of art. Since you had it, why bother fixating on whether it will always be yours? The process was beautiful and worth remembering. Please let go and become a thing of the past. Cherish the present, as it’s the best outcome for everyone.
Burying the Past
Everyone has loved someone in the past, and you don’t need to mock the impulsive things you did for love or the silly mistakes you made. Your past efforts were not in vain, and the decision to part ways is not regrettable. There’s no need to dwell on it repeatedly.
Memories should be preserved, cherished, and appreciated as beautiful moments, not used to drag yourself into the abyss and a cycle of breakdowns.
Don’t wait until others are tired of you, or until they express annoyance or claim they never loved you. Don’t dwell on those heart-wrenching words. Don’t let yourself suffocate in sorrow, cry until there are no tears left, or drown in the darkness of the night. Don’t immerse yourself in the sea of a past relationship until you feel like no one can save you.
Letting go doesn’t necessarily mean you don’t love them anymore; it’s just choosing a different way to love them. Your memories remind you that this love existed. Not all persistent thoughts will have an echo, but the absence of an echo doesn’t invalidate your persistence.
As the lyrics say: “Recalling the past, the pain of lovesickness lingers.” After all, it’s almost impossible to completely forget someone you once deeply loved. Fate has its limits, but love is difficult to control. However, those who can manage their emotions and desires are wise and understand life.
Cherishing the Present
The person in front of you is the one in your heart, not an unattainable figure in the sky. There’s no use in yearning for something you don’t have. Life is fair; it will give what is due, sooner or later.
Focusing solely on one person with fairness to yourself and others, including the person you once loved, is a form of redemption. Living in the past may cause you to miss out on present happiness. Hold onto the emotions of the moment, and control your inner self. Enjoy the current love and ride alongside your present partner.
Instead of regretting the past relationship, cherish the present one. Don’t compare, don’t belittle, love wholeheartedly, and make an effort. A person with mixed feelings is like a car crossing a double solid line, not abiding by the rules and full of potential danger. Aren’t you tired? You can’t hold on to this and can’t let go of that. You can’t handle all these emotions.
Whether to bury the love for someone in the past or to relentlessly pursue and cling to it, you should understand which truly signifies love. Not all forgetting is equivalent to betrayal. This is not about forcing you to forget someone; it’s about keeping your past love in your heart. I don’t think anyone would dig deep to touch upon the affairs of their partner.
If you think you are treating me well, it should be because I feel it is good. There’s no point in living in the past. Yes, you can’t let go of someone you loved. But since reality has defeated you, you should respect it. Powerless resistance will only hurt more people. Fruitless struggle only prolongs the duration of that love, and it won’t change the outcome.
This is like art and academia. Although they are fundamentally different, they complement each other. Whether you let go or not, it’s all in the past. Don’t bind the present to the past. All the pain stems from an inability to let go and see clearly, and it’s self-inflicted trouble caused by desire.
The past is but a dream in history, and how many talented individuals lie in the yellow springs? There’s no need to calculate and arrange; enjoy the present with each other.