In TV dramas, the empress was very much in love with the emperor, but in the end, she was abandoned and left with nothing. The emperor was also extremely cruel to her.

Later, the empress was sent to the cold palace, and Wei Zhongxiao went to visit her. At this time, the empress asked Wei Zhongxiao a question:

“I’m very curious, how did you make the emperor fall in love with you?”

Wei Zhongxiao said, “Shh… can’t say.” The empress was very curious, so Wei Zhongxiao continued, “Loving someone means hiding it in your heart and not expressing it.”

So, sometimes men are like this: the more women cater to them, the more they feel the women are worthless. Women think they’re doing their best, but men think it’s nothing special.

When women express their love deeply, they should pretend they’re not that into the guy. This way, they can show their love without showing it all.

So, sometimes women shouldn’t contact men every day. If women keep contacting men, men might think they’re annoying. Smart women will have their own way of dealing with it.

A capable woman will make men come to her, while an incapable woman will keep chasing after men.

Love Should Be Fair

Online comments say:

“Love between men and women is never equal; it’s always one person loving and the other being loved. Love means enduring pain, and being loved means causing pain.”

However, some women don’t put fairness in their hearts and think love can be unequal, exchanging their dignity for love.

Even the famous writer Zhang Ailing thought this way, writing:

“Fallen dust, blooming flowers.”

However, in love, constantly lowering oneself might not bloom flowers but make women wither.

In the end, Zhang Ailing’s fate was tragic, dying alone in a small black room, only discovered days later.

So, sometimes don’t make men too important, and don’t lower your own status too much.

Women must be clear: when thinking of men, they can send them a message or go find them. But everything has a limit, and women should leave some dignity for themselves. If men don’t respond, women can leave them.

In love, fairness is key. If the balance is uneven from the start, it might always be skewed.

Each woman should have her own self-respect, not constantly chasing men, speaking a lot, and getting nothing but a cold shoulder in return.

Some women contact men every day, even every minute, thinking men will have the same feelings. But men might be enjoying themselves, unaware of the woman’s suffering.

So, sometimes don’t make men too important, and don’t think your efforts will be rewarded. In fact, it might be the opposite.

When you lose your dignity in front of men, men will think your words are worthless, and your language will become pale. Finding or not finding each other becomes meaningless.

In love, fairness is key. If you’re always the victim and the other person is always the beneficiary, then there’s no need to continue.

Smart women will grasp the balance of love, treating the other person equally and themselves with dignity.

Distance Can Create Beauty

Distance can sometimes create beauty, like the saying goes:

“A brief separation is better than a new marriage.”

Sometimes, when two people are together, they might argue and feel suffocated, losing the freshness of being together.

So, when someone is by your side, you don’t appreciate them, but when they suddenly leave, you feel empty.

Chatting and meeting are the same.

If a woman contacts a man every day, the man will think she’s annoying. But if she contacts him occasionally, the man might take the initiative to think of her.

A woman who does nothing but find a man will make the man feel annoyed, but if she occasionally finds him, the man will feel uneasy.

So, women should grasp the limit when doing things, not constantly finding men. This way, they might be looked down upon.

Women should let men know they’re thinking of them, but also let them know that if they don’t put in effort, women might leave.

In fact, in a relationship, if women always put in effort, they’ll get tired.

So, women should be smart and learn to desire but not seek, not just thinking of finding men, but also making men take the initiative to find them.

Some Things Are Less Valuable the More You Have

In this world, except for being good to parents, your goodness to anyone else is not lifelong. You should grasp the limit of your goodness.

Some people are like this: the more you’re good to them, the more they’ll take advantage of you, thinking you’re easy to bully. In love, such men are common.

Like my friend, a very gentle person, who always apologizes to her boyfriend after a fight.

I remember one time they fought, and my friend took the initiative to find her boyfriend, but in the end, he still left her.

So, sometimes don’t put yourself in a low position. If you constantly find men, your methods will become worthless in others’ eyes.

Maybe if you don’t find men, they’ll think of your goodness and come to you. But if you constantly find them, they’ll become more and more arrogant, thinking you’re not excellent.

Sometimes there’s this phenomenon: when someone keeps chasing you, you’ll think they’re not good enough, and you shouldn’t choose them. But when they want to leave, you’ll want to hold on to them.

So, sometimes leaving can increase your charm, and constantly clinging to someone will make you more and more inferior.