People often equate feelings with marriage:

feelings = marriage;

or,

marriage = feelings.

In reality, feelings are personal experiences, while marriage is an institution.

In ancient times, marriages were often for practical reasons. Marriages were based on social status and alliances between families rather than the happiness of the individuals involved.

Marriage, as an institution, aims to protect societal interests rather than individual feelings. It comes with obligations that must be followed and consequences for violations.

Feelings, on the other hand, are personal experiences. If you get hurt in a relationship, no one will fight for your justice or demand fairness on your behalf.

Understanding that feelings and marriage are distinct is crucial. You can enter a relationship based on feelings, but rushing into marriage without careful consideration is unwise. While feelings can change easily, marriage is a more binding commitment.

Many people marry for love, but marriage stability can sometimes be higher when love is not the main factor. This might seem puzzling, but emotions are often the most unstable aspect of a marriage.

Those who prioritize feelings in marriage are more likely to be disappointed or hurt because the other person’s actions and ability to meet their needs determine the outcome.

While material interests in marriage tend to strengthen over time, feelings generally decline. This means that the strongest emotions in a marriage may occur early on.

People say feelings are fickle, but it’s human nature that changes. If feelings fade in a marriage, the relationship may naturally come to an end. Unlike friendships, marriage creates a bond that is not easily broken even when feelings sour.

Marriage can trap you by using feelings as bait, making you believe it can secure and strengthen love. However, true happiness in marriage depends on the character of both individuals involved.

In marriage, it’s important not to solely rely on emotions. This doesn’t mean being cold-hearted but rather not letting emotions dictate decisions, especially in times of hurt or neglect.

The most painful situation in marriage is when one values feelings above all, yet the partner betrays, hurts, and takes love for granted. In such cases, individuals struggle to let go or accept the pain, leading to inner turmoil and indecision.

For those facing such challenges, reevaluating the concepts of feelings and marriage is crucial. By addressing these aspects separately, a clearer path to resolution may emerge.

Stay tuned for the next article where we will delve deeper into handling feelings and marriage separately.