It’s not like everyone is born lucky. Most people are just ordinary folks. They hustle for a living, working hard to make ends meet. That’s the life most people lead.

The word “money” is something many people love and hate. They hate its vulgarity, but they love that it can fulfill most of their wishes.

E.E. Cummings once wrote, “I want lots and lots of love, but if there’s no love, then lots and lots of money will do.”

Love is great, of course. But the problem with love is that it’s not always constant. Sometimes it makes you go all in, and sometimes it makes you weak and vulnerable.

Money, despite its vulgarity, gives you real security.

Even someone as free-spirited as Sarah once said, “If love doesn’t translate into practical things like clothes, food, money, and sleep, it’s hard to last.”

For a middle-aged woman, the biggest confidence she has isn’t given by anyone else. It’s the ability to make money herself.

Actress Sarah once gave a speech where she talked about a trip she took to Japan with her family when she was a stay-at-home mom.

She wanted to get a matcha ice cream at Kiyomizu-dera Temple, but her husband refused. That refusal made her realize she didn’t even have the ability to buy an ice cream. She was just an accessory to her husband.

A life without money is empty, let alone dignity.

Sarah realized this. She had followed society’s “standards” for women and given up her career to become a stay-at-home mom, a devoted housewife. But every dollar she spent, she had to ask her husband for.

After tasting the bitterness of a middle-aged life without money, she made a choice. She went back to her acting career, which she loved.

Sarah said that she went back to Kiyomizu-dera Temple with her friends later on. She said she didn’t have to ask anyone for permission anymore. When she ate the matcha ice cream she wanted, she tasted “freedom.”

So what is a middle-aged woman’s biggest confidence?

At this age, talking about love is a bit cheesy. While love isn’t just for young people, after experiencing the ups and downs of life, you realize that even the best love is built on a material foundation.

Love can’t sustain you, and it’s not everything. If it can’t stand the test of money, it’s pointless.

Middle-aged women need love to nourish them, but they also need money to give them confidence. Only then can they live the life they want.

After all, when you’re young, you have youth. You might not be shining brightly, but you have endless hope and possibilities.

By middle age, your youthful naiveté has faded, and your passion has cooled. All that’s left is the helplessness of being beaten down by life.

If you put all your hope in someone else, you’ll find that mountains crumble and people leave. Only you can truly be relied upon.

In the TV show “My First Half of Life,” Sarah is a stay-at-home mom. Her life consists of “shopping, shopping, shopping” and keeping an eye out for women who might be interested in her husband.

She thought her husband’s money was hers. She felt secure in her marriage. But eventually, her husband became disgusted with her and left her. If it hadn’t been for her best friend Sarah and her boyfriend, she would have been left with nothing.

After the divorce, Sarah put all her hope in finding another rich man. But what could a housewife without any skills offer? People only saw her as someone they could take advantage of.

Fortunately, she quickly realized this. With the help of her friend, she constantly upgraded her skills and finally found her own value. It was then that she realized how foolish she had been.

She had naively believed that her husband’s “I’ll take care of you” was a lifetime promise. Little did she know that it was the most poisonous line in the world.

If you can laugh it off, then fine. But if you make it your marriage “mantra,” you’re bound to get hurt.

Dale Carnegie said in “The Happiness Principle for Women,” “Economically independent women have the ability to create their own happiness. They don’t need to please or depend on men. Marriage is simply a bonus for them.”

Later, Sarah became a successful career woman. Even though she rejected Sarah ‘s advances because of Sarah , she no longer saw love as the most important thing in her life.

She used to think of marriage as her career, but she got betrayed. Now, the career she holds and the material things it brings her won’t betray her.

She can still live a good life without a man. That’s the best state a middle-aged woman can be in.

But many women live in a fairy tale of love. They think that giving their whole heart to their marriage and family will bring them equal returns. But in reality, love doesn’t reward you based on how much you give.

If you’re a middle-aged woman with no money and no ability to make money, even if you want to take care of your parents, you’ll have to ask for money. But why should they pay for your parents’ lives?

Without money, you can’t go to the places you want to go, see the sights you want to see, fulfill your dreams, support your parents, and your husband will look down on you, and even your children will disrespect you.

Is that the life you want?

You might not have money when you’re young, but you at least have hope. When you’re middle-aged and have no money, your path in life becomes much narrower.

Your ideals are grand, but life is reality. When you have the ability to make money and money in your hands, you won’t be so anxious or insecure.

Because you can achieve everything you want on your own. If you have nothing, it’s truly a tragedy.

All women should understand this deeply.

When you’re young, learn to plan for yourself. Don’t sacrifice your life for love or anything else.

After all, many things are unpredictable. Even the happiest marriage needs to have a backup plan.

If life throws you a curveball, you won’t be helpless or have to grovel to someone else. You’ll be able to face life’s challenges head-on.

Being self-reliant is the biggest confidence you can have.

It’s because of your strength that you can win respect and dignity.