I used to love watching various emotional reality shows, but I got a little tired of them after watching them too much. I found that most of women’s problems in sexual relationships have similar roots. Although they manifest themselves in a variety of ways on the outside, but there are many ways to get to the root of it, there is only one sentence: too much inner drama.
Why do we have so much inner drama? Maybe she is a person with excessive self-awareness, maybe she is too invested in this relationship, or more likely because she doesn’t understand the male species too well.
Today I will introduce one thing that most men have in common: they are afraid of trouble, especially emotional matters.
Once many women fall in love, they simply regard love as their entire life. They can skip meals and have no time for friends, but they seem to be unable to live without that man. Either she is stuck with a man or she is planning the next meeting.
Of course, a man knows that this is due to your love and obsession with him, so he will be a little moved, satisfied and accomplished at first, but as time goes by, he will feel tired and annoyed.
You know, many men are creatures who don’t even bother to think about what they are going to eat for their next meal. In the emotional world, what they want most is: happiness without pressure. Any happiness that comes with pressure becomes torture that one wants to escape from.
In this regard, men are like cats. There will be a kitten at home soon, so I have been researching cats a lot lately. What is the biggest difference in personality between cats and dogs? You must have said it as soon as you opened your mouth: You are so cold. Yes, but does being aloof mean that the cat has no feelings for its owner? of course not.
When you desperately chase it to touch or hold it, the first thing the cat feels is pressure, not your love. Its instinct will make it hide as far away as possible. When you are focused on your mobile phone and computer, the cat will take the initiative to come over and make love to you, because it knows that you will not chase it and force it, and you will not put pressure on it.
Men are similar to cats in that they enjoy active hunting rather than being treated as prey. The woman’s relentless pursuit and the woman’s desire to control his whereabouts at all times will bring an invisible sense of pressure to them, making them instinctively want to escape.
In terms of innate differences between the sexes, men have much lower emotional needs than women. Women may regard feelings as an indispensable element of a happy life, and are more likely to risk everything for love. But men don’t. They rarely break their original comfortable life just for love, and they rarely break their bones for love. It’s not that I don’t love you, but I’m afraid of trouble.
Moreover, men are born with a stronger sense of responsibility than women. Whether it is to the family or to society, they do not only consider love.
The manifestation of this in real life is that once a woman has a third party in her heart, it is easier to take the initiative to show off her cards and choose a new love. Men, on the other hand, neither want to let go of the third party nor take the initiative to show off their cards to their original spouse. The nature of being afraid of trouble makes them choose “more things are worse than less things”, not to mention their sense of responsibility to the family makes them feel guilty.
Women always like to ask endlessly whether a man loves him or not, how much he loves her, and she always likes to analyze and study this relationship. If a man cannot be as invested as she is, criticize him for being heartless. In fact, most of the time men are just lazy and find emotional matters too troublesome. Do you want people to continue the volcanic eruption of love for a lifetime? How is that possible? Don’t you want to do other things in this life?
Don’t think that a good man is a man who is infatuated, maybe that’s just a way for others to treat you. Don’t think that those who are ruthless are not good men, maybe they are just not good at expressing themselves. Men are really not complicated creatures. They are playful, lazy and face-saving. He is very interested in women, but most of them only stay at the level of chatting and flirting. It is not easy for them to change their original lives for women.
Women, don’t be discouraged. Perhaps men understand the true meaning of feelings better, so they don’t stick to formalities?
You must understand and learn to control your love and don’t let it overflow.
You must know that the direction of a relationship is not only determined by you, but also by fate and fate. It cannot be completely determined by people. Therefore, when things don’t go your way, be relieved and don’t have to ask what’s going on.
The only law of this world is impermanence, and everything is full of variables.
For everyone, the world is the same, neither well-intentioned nor malicious, but unintentional.
When encountering changes, what we have to do is to fully accept, let go, and turn the page.