But what is true love? Isn’t it the one who loves us sincerely?

Knowing clearly that you are meeting a scumbag, but still unable to let go, unable to leave, reluctant to let go, and unwilling to give up, that is not love, it is cowardice.

Empty cup mentality

Relieving yourself after a breakup is a repetitive process—“let go in one moment, pessimistic in the next”.

The same story comes from a reader. She twice acted as someone else’s backup. The two men behaved exactly the same way. It can be said that they burned bridges across rivers. Unfortunately, she could not predict it at the time.

The first part is that the eleven-year relationship and nine-year marriage between her and her ex-husband are no match for a woman she has only known for a short time;

The second part was lost to a woman she had known longer than her.

She thought about it and felt that it was a choice with pros and cons, but she felt very painful. This pain was difficult for others to understand.

She always felt that life was boring, and she would be stung when she saw those scumbag men being happy.

She knew the principles of liberation, but she just couldn’t do it.

Not only this girl, but every reader including me may encounter similar dilemmas, but some seemingly bad things may just be a safety reminder: it’s time to stop and think about it.

Only by finding the right direction can we better accumulate strength and move forward.

If you want to come out, you must do this:

For example, “I understand the principles of liberation, but I just can’t do it.” Don’t say it again, because when you say this, it means closing the path for you to potentially learn more principles.

When you say “I understand all the truths”, you can no longer learn new truths.

We must be like a cup that empties all the water, because when we have an empty cup mentality, it is possible to inject new water into it.

If you always feel that “you know it all”, then the cup will remain full and it will be impossible to pour fresh water into it.

For example, “I lost again to a woman who has been around longer than me.” The meaning of this is: time is not important.

But the heroine always uses what she thinks is important to measure something that is unimportant in the eyes of others. Naturally, she cannot achieve happiness.

In other words, time is very important to the heroine, and the heroine always regards time as the most important factor; but for those men, time is not important at all.

Time is not important in relationships at all, because we live in the present, not in the past, so this moment is the most important. This is what the heroine does not understand.

From this point of view, I can say many more truths.

For example, the heroine believes that time is important because she regards time as her own investment;

But from the perspective of the other party, maybe this is a loss. If the heroine has not established the mentality of an empty cup, no matter how much she talks, it will be useless.

All in all, if the heroine’s mind is like a cup filled with all kinds of water, no one can help her come out.

Always remind yourself to keep the cup empty, this is what you have to do when you leave a person.

In love, everyone has different scoring standards. It is impossible for us to score high in everyone’s eyes, but we can definitely score high in the eyes of one person.

In the same way, when a relationship ends, it is over.

We can review and reflect on our shortcomings, but don’t let ourselves get stuck, because our goal is to avoid making the same mistakes again.

Therefore, we should bravely pursue love and bravely accept not being loved.