What Kind of Person Is the Happiest Person to Fall in Love With?

When choosing a lifelong partner, we always want someone who is compatible with our own personality, someone who has the same three views, someone who loves and cherishes us, and avoid someone with a very different family background, someone who is greedy for pleasure, someone who does not understand People who cherish themselves.

Because we feel that only in this way can love and marriage be happy.

In fact, what kind of person is the happiest to fall in love with?

1. Just because he or she doesn’t love you doesn’t mean you’re not lovable. You need to meet someone who appreciates you.

Baby, you are a big gift package sent to us by God. You have given us surprises and scares.

There are times when you are cute, there are times when you are naughty, there are times when you are unreasonable, and there are times when you are very considerate…

There are times when mom likes to be with you, and there are times when she wants to beat you…

But no matter when, we all know that we love you and will have many stories with you for the rest of our lives.

And your TA will also give you similar feelings. Sometimes they drive you crazy, sometimes they make you happy, sometimes they ignore you, sometimes they make you cry…

If you have gone through all this and you know that you still love them and want to be with them, you may one day feel that they are more important than your parents.

Your parents may be jealous when they find out about this situation, but they will be happy for you and happy that someone has added color to your life.

It’s just that if we know that he or she makes you uncomfortable, we will feel even more uncomfortable. However, this is your life. You are an adult and can be responsible for your own life, so it doesn’t matter whether this is him or her.

Baby, please remember that no one is perfect in this world.

Mom is not, dad is not, you are not, and your TA is not either, but we can still love and enjoy being loved.

What I want to say next is that my mother hopes that you will never experience it in your life, but your mother is not a god, and she does not have the power of a god to ensure that your life is only happiness.

If you and your partner have to separate, you may still love them, but they may not love you anymore, and they may even do something that hurts you. Mom wants you to know, no matter when, please remember:

Just because she doesn’t love you doesn’t mean you’re not cute, it’s just that your cuteness needs to meet someone who knows how to appreciate you, just like mom meets dad.

You see, your dad’s ordinary and ordinary appearance is not too difficult to find.

However, when you find that person, it does not mean that you will live happily ever after.

You and TA will also experience a lot, happy, sad, sweet, and quarrels, just like what I said at the beginning of this letter.

This process may require you and your partner to learn some lessons about how to love each other better.

It is possible that what your mother tells you may not be suitable. After all, everyone is different. There is no perfect love formula that can be applied to everyone.

But it doesn’t matter, I believe you will be willing to learn how to love each other better.

2. Find someone who understands your “illness”, because a good lover is each other’s best “therapist”

Dear baby, I forgot which psychological master said:

The reason why people have psychological problems is because they lack someone in their lives who can understand them, or there has never even been someone who can understand them.

I think that few people are born into a perfect family of origin, and no one has never encountered trauma. We will all live in the world with our own “diseases” to a greater or lesser extent, right?

But why do some people have serious psychological crises and others not?

I usually think that it’s not that the latter are mentally strong, but that they were lucky enough to meet the person who could potentially provide them with “psychological counseling.”

This person is often their lover or partner, and this partner’s ability to empathize with self-love can successfully resolve the psychological crisis that their significant other may encounter.

And it’s very possible that the healing was mutual, they treated each other, healed each other, and became each other’s best therapists.

Mom is a counselor. In psychology, the most important ability we evaluate a counselor is the ability to empathize.

Empathy is generally based on a deep understanding of human nature, that is, you need to understand your visitor and what is going on with his illness. When you feed this understanding back to him, it is a huge improvement in itself. Treatment.

So if this relationship model is put into an intimate relationship, a good lover should be like this. He understands your “disease” very well, and you understand his “disease” very well.

It is precisely because we understand each other well that we can be the antidote in each other’s lives, nourish each other, move forward all the way, never leave, and truly love deeply.

My mother also discovered that the biggest reasons why a marriage fails are:

The parties involved in the marriage do not understand each other. Because they do not understand each other, they are unable to communicate, or they do not even have the desire to communicate. In such a marriage, even emotional experts cannot mediate.

“Find someone you can talk to. As long as you find this person, you can feel at ease in life, settle down, feel at home, and have a place to belong.”

A good lover is the best counselor. Dear baby, may you find the antidote in your life.

3. What kind of lover we find is not the most important thing. Love is a path that allows us to reach ourselves.

Daughter, love is not the only theme in life. It’s not even a permanent theme.

But it is a necessary journey in life.

If you ask me, mom, what kind of person is the happiest to fall in love with? Luckiest? Should I find someone who loves me or someone I love? That was the question I thought about most when I was twenty. At one time, I felt that it was the only question I cared about in my life.

If you ask me this question now, I would like to say:

What kind of lover you find is not the most important thing.

Because falling in love, loving each other, and loving others are all a path that allows us to lead to ourselves.

Whether it is the sadness and hurt caused by an unsuitable lover, or the disappointment and destruction caused by the lover we deeply love,

In my opinion, none of these are absolutely positive or negative, should or should not be, lucky or unfortunate,

Because setbacks in love will also lead you to growth.

When we look at a story, we need to evaluate what kind of story it is. We need to see the whole story before we can evaluate it.

So, dear baby, no matter where you are in your love story, experiencing the highs of happiness or the lows of sadness, I hope you know that that is not the whole story of your life, it is just a chapter.

If you are a powerful person and follow the pictures, these puzzle pieces will eventually lead you to find yourself. You will become more complete and powerful, and you will understand the truth of life and the universe.

Even if you fall in love with a terrible person, even if you have a failed relationship, it doesn’t matter.

That’s just one paragraph. It is not decisive. Pain always brings growth, which is the sad dividend of love.

If in the end you find a partner who is mutually supportive, and decide to complete the task of growing up in this world with him, and decide to explore life with him, then I hope:

No matter how much you love him or how much he loves you, this person is a person who can make you feel that there is hope in life and make you feel that the world is beautiful.

Because only by establishing a partnership with such a person can the relationship be viable. It can inject energy into you and you will find the direction of your soul.

In the rapidly passing time, in the ever-changing world, feeling the beauty of the world side by side with one person is a happy moment.

A moment is also eternity.

But if we can go hand in hand for a long enough time, find the truth of life together, build a complete self together, accept each other’s whole truth, and then slowly repair all our own wounds, then we are soul mates, and that is a minority. of luck.

There is no need to have such a longing for love.

All roads you have taken, including the road of love, are actually roads that help you lead to yourself and freedom. This is the full story.