With the development and progress of society, women’s status in life and work has gradually increased.

Many times, women even surpass men and become more independent and self-reliant.

I have met many friends who are white-collar workers or even gold-collar workers and live a prosperous life. They feel that they can handle everything, but they complain that they don’t have a boyfriend who truly understands them.

Usually their boyfriends will break up with them after being together for a period of time with excuses such as “you are too good and I don’t think we are suitable”.

Is “You are so good” really a compliment? actually not.

After detailed inquiries, I learned from my friend that she usually does whatever she thinks she can do in life, trying not to “trouble” her boyfriend.

She always thought that doing this would make her boyfriend think she was considerate and attentive, so different from those weak women outside.

As everyone knows, upright men will only feel that you don’t need him in your life, so they want to find someone who needs their care more.

Every time I hear such a story, I feel heartbroken.

Because it is very likely that your temporary strong-will has caused you to miss an excellent boyfriend who can be considerate to you in every possible way.

So what are the “troublesome things” that if you let your boyfriend do, he will be more inseparable from you?

1. Physical work allows him to “hero save the beauty” at the right time

Since ancient times, men have been responsible for hunting and women have been responsible for picking and gathering. Their innate advantages in physical strength are their innate advantages.

So when you encounter heavy and tiring work, stop thinking about using your “prehistoric power”.

Don’t underestimate these simple physical tasks. Even helping you unscrew a bottle cap can make a boy feel his masculinity.

What’s more, you who are usually vigorous and resolute in the workplace can also show your sweet side, so why not do it.

For example, the water dispenser at home needs to be replaced, or you need to take something down from a high place. At this time, you cannot use a commanding tone. Instead, you can show off to your boyfriend in a timely manner and ask him to help you. .

After he finishes, you can openly show your gratitude and admiration, and even say things like “I don’t know what I would do without you” and “You are really my guardian angel”. Pass.

He will fully accept your admiration and feel even more eager to pamper you and protect you, thus deepening his feelings for you.

2. For brain work, let him give you ideas and solutions.

The reason why men like to talk about economics and politics is precisely because they are more confident in their talents and wisdom, and the best way to make them feel this self-confidence is to give them some small troubles within their ability.

For example, the computer is broken, the software cannot be learned, common knowledge about cars, or those problems that men are good at.

When he uses his own skills to easily solve the problems that bother you, you will feel a sense of accomplishment.

In addition, a more advanced way is to invite him to make suggestions.

For example, my best friend Cathy, as a project manager, is usually quite dignified in the company. Act with maturity and maturity, and speak your mind.

However, after so many years, her boyfriend has always regarded her as a simple and ignorant little girl and has taken great care of her.

How did she become so “two-faced”?

In fact, what she did was very simple. She always shares some of the troubles she encounters in life with her boyfriend and hopes that he will come up with ideas for her.

One time, another project manager tried to compete with her for a good project by trying to put her on the back foot.

As a veteran in the workplace, Cathy was certainly used to such tricks, but after she found out about it, she still felt aggrieved and told her boyfriend about it.

Her boyfriend first lost his temper with her in anger, and then comforted her and helped her rationally analyze how to deal with it now.

In the end, her boyfriend was afraid that she would always be resentful, so he took his vacation ahead of time and took her to the tropics to relax.

Cathy knows how to solve many things, but she likes to hear her boyfriend talk to her in a caring tone. Her boyfriend feels that he has played the role of Cathy’s “life coach” and gained huge benefits from it. sense of satisfaction and achievement.

This kind of advice will not only make your boyfriend feel your admiration and respect for him, but also make him feel that he is irreplaceable in your life.

3. Show your own vision

Just like girls like to be praised for their tasteful dressing, men also care about whether their taste can be recognized by others.

There is a very simple truth. When he chooses you as his girlfriend, in a sense, you have already represented his vision and taste.

Can you still say that his taste is bad?

A friend of mine, Rachel, who is average-looking and not particularly talkative, uses a “little trick” to make her boyfriend look forward to dating her.

The method is very simple, just invite your boyfriend to choose a date match for you.

At the beginning, her boyfriend would also be unsure, or say “anything” or “anything is good”, but with Rachel’s persistence and encouragement, her boyfriend would also give him his own favorite combination.

Rachel, on the other hand, would dress up according to her boyfriend’s ideas and go on dates with her boyfriend without saying a word.

This move would later become a topic of conversation between them throughout the day. She would praise her boyfriend from time to time for his discernment and felt that she was extra elegant today, and her boyfriend was certainly pleased to see Rachel dressed up carefully.

In addition, decorating, buying furniture, what music to listen to, and which movie to watch can all be left to boys to decide from time to time.

Let him clearly understand with actions that you trust his taste and appreciate his vision, which is more effective than praising them superficially!

At the same time, he will feel a greater sense of responsibility as he considers the things you have in common. He will want to meet your needs in every aspect and want to bring you a better life.

Of course, after he successfully completes the “task”, don’t be stingy with your praise. Let these emotional encouragements help him devote himself better to the next “task”.

Although independence is a good quality that women should have, a timely “show of weakness” will make your partner more clearly realize that you are a woman who needs to be loved.

If two people live too independently, they will become indifferent to each other’s emotions over time. Therefore, appropriate dependence and coquettishness are necessary for the maintenance of intimate relationships.

Therefore, the last thing women should do when facing straight men is to be “independent and self-reliant”. This will make them feel that they have no sense of existence, and they may even treat you as a buddy! On the contrary, if you try to act coquettishly with him from time to time and trouble him to do things, not only will he not find it troublesome, but he will also have a special sense of accomplishment.

However, there is still a difference between acting coquettishly and “acting”. As for how to master the balance, it depends on the women’s own talents.