Three lanes on the highway, and you’re driving in the middle lane.

A car from the right lane suddenly overtakes you and quickly changes into your lane.

The distance between your vehicles is very close, and there’s a risk of collision if no action is taken.

What do you do?

New drivers, when facing a fast-approaching car from the right, instinctively veer sharply to the left.

At this moment,

If there are no cars in the left lane and your speed is relatively high, you might lose control of your car.

If there are cars in the left lane, then you’ll likely have a collision, and it will be entirely your fault.

So, what do experienced drivers usually do in this situation?

Ever heard of “yielding speed, not yielding the lane”?

When squeezed by a car from the right, the first reaction is to brake, but you won’t immediately turn the steering wheel.

Instead, you wait until you confirm that the left lane is clear and your speed has decreased to a safe level before steering to evade.

Experienced drivers have formed a habit of “not steering without checking the rearview mirror” over many years of driving.

In a split second, it’s all about the conditioned reflexes developed through long-term training.

This is how instinct has been overcome through long-term training.

Veteran relationship players are the same way.

The things that instinct drives you to do are definitely not conducive to winning over the opposite sex.

Liking someone.

Instinctively wanting to pay more attention to her, analyze her words and actions, and figure out her social media posts.

Instinctively wanting to please her, be good to her, and make her happy.

Instinctively wanting to chat with her, meet her, and when dating, instinctively wanting to be physically intimate.

But all of these instincts will lower your mysteriousness and attractiveness in front of the woman.

Always paying attention to her, always trying to chat with her, sending her messages one after another, and even writing long paragraphs.

This directly exposes your neediness and desire, naturally removing your mysteriousness.

From the woman’s perspective, it will seem very low, and her interest in you will easily decrease.

Continuously trying to please her, being good to her, directly lowers your status.

In her eyes, she is the judge, and you are the one in the dock.

At this point, you need to have more conditions to make up for the attractiveness you’ve lost.

When you start dating someone, you can’t help but be physically forward and say things that are beyond the scope of your relationship.

The girl will only think you’re frivolous, impulsive, aggressive, and not dignified, and her impression of you will take a big hit.

Being physically forward during a meeting, unless you’re handsome and rich and can use your huge conditions to exchange for the girl’s high tolerance.

Experienced players can restrain their instincts.

Even if they meet someone they really like and find difficult to handle, they will calm down and think about strategies and methods.

If the other person doesn’t reply to your messages, even if you want to continue messaging and asking, you’re able to hold back. If you don’t respond to me, I won’t continue to reach out to you.

They’d rather not have what they can’t get, and they won’t do things that diminish their value.

Experienced players treasure their feathers more than novices.

Knowing that the girl is interested in you and willing to be your girlfriend, but not doing anything inappropriate, maintaining a chaste image.

The girl will only become more interested in you, and in some cases, she might be more eager than you are.

Even after becoming a couple.

Even if you really like the other person, you won’t pamper or indulge them without limits. There are lines that cannot be crossed, and you will get angry when necessary.

Not only does this stop the girl from being arrogant because of your pampering, but it also establishes your authority.

No girl likes a pushover, and a lot of the time, the more assertive you are, the more she will think you’re manly and naturally love you more.

Finally.

Resisting these “instincts” is not something you can achieve just by reading a lot of books and understanding them.

All theories are just an “outline,” and the purpose is to let you know the direction.

You have to keep practicing in real-life situations.

Just like driving, no matter how familiar you are with it, and no matter how many videos you watch, as soon as you get behind the wheel, all your instincts will kick in.