If marriage is a big tree, the husband and wife are the ones who enjoy the cool air and shelter from the wind and rain under the tree.

The relationship between husband and wife shares weal and woe. If you want to run a good marriage, you must work in both directions to get a happy and ideal ending.

Balzac said: Love regards happiness as its goal, while marriage regards the whole life as its goal.

When a smart woman manages a marriage, she knows how to make subtractions, reduce the negative manifestations exposed when getting along, and give her partner enough positive emotional value to achieve a more harmonious family environment.

Knowing how to let go and make improvements in getting along will allow both parties to move forward sweetly with ease.

1. Let go of complaining about life

Complaining is like a bad boy who likes to play pranks. He never cares about the desire to be loved in the heart of the person who complains.

In the process of asking for her husband’s love and care, the more a woman complains, the whole person is like a balloon full of negative energy, and the easier it is to push away the emotional goal she wants to pursue. Men don’t like women who complain about everything. They will find life boring.

Going out to eat with a couple was a buffet that my wife had been talking about for a long time.
The husband was originally in a good mood, and the couple chatted and laughed in a particularly harmonious atmosphere. However, while her husband was enjoying the meal, his wife first complained that the dining time of the buffet was unreasonable. The two-hour dining time seemed stingy to the boss. She also complained that her husband did not know how to mix meat and vegetables when choosing food, and did not care about her body. …

My husband smiled helplessly at me and concentrated on eating the food on the plate in silence. The atmosphere instantly became tense.

Complaints are like dark clouds, which make people feel depressed. In the long years of marriage, what men need is a clear sky, not only dark clouds.

Let go of complaining about dissatisfaction and focus more on the positive aspects of life. When your heart is happy, your relationship will be at ease.

2. Let go of the pursuit of desires

In marriage, unsatisfied desire is the string that makes the relationship easily become tense. Excessive pursuit will only cause the string to break.

Just like Chen Junsheng in “The First Half of My Life”, his family was very happy before divorce: he had a successful career, a beautiful and generous wife, and smart and cute children. When his wife was suspicious of Chen Junsheng, Chen Junsheng only needed to find out the existing problems between the couple. The root cause is there, and by solving the problem you can have a better wife and family.

It’s a pity that he can’t see his own shortcomings. The pursuit of lust makes him forget the loyalty and responsibility that marriage should have. He would rather abandon his wife and children to pursue the so-called “love” until his wife and children separate. In a remarried family After dealing with more and more things, I regretted it and wanted to go back to the past before I changed my mind.

Appropriate desire will inspire a person’s positive efforts. When a person’s desire is too high or even too greedy, and he does not know how to be content with his content, the more he desires to have something, the easier it is to lose it.

A smart woman understands that everything she encounters is fate, is grateful for everything she has in life, and does not envy others but can cherish and grasp the present moment, and hold on to the happiness she has already received in ordinary days.

3. Let go of control over your partner

A partner is not a personal item. Even if two people become a community of destiny after marriage, they are still independent individuals, interdependent and independent. Respecting your partner’s thinking and living habits and reducing your willingness to change your partner is the key to a long-lasting marriage.

The more a marriage demonstrates love in the name of control, the more likely it is that people will feel suffocated and have the idea of escape.

Just like Gu Jia in “Thirty Only”, as Xu Huanshan’s legal wife, she controlled her husband like a child. She found that the socks her husband wore were inconsistent with the overall style of his clothes, so she urged her husband to change his socks.

There were many similar things. Until the truth about Xu Huanshan’s betrayal of his marriage came to light, and when Gu Jia asked Xu Huanshan what was wrong with their marriage, Xu Huanshan still did not forget to take out his wife and ask him to replace it. The right socks give an example of how breathless life is when being controlled by your partner.

Marriage is a long road. Husband and wife are partners who are willing to run a prosperous marriage business, rather than accessories in their own lives. Only by letting go of control over their partners and relaxing together can they go further.

Samuel said: The success of a marriage depends on two people, and one person can make it fail.
If you want to run a successful marriage, you must work hard and do the right things.

Let go of complaining about life and give your partner a considerate self; let go of the pursuit of desires and cherish the happiness you have already achieved; let go of control over your partner and let your lover be safe in your marriage and be comfortable with each other.

You who have worked hard to run a good marriage deserve better results.