For everyone, meeting a suitable and correct life partner means living an ordinary and simple life.
As long as two people can weather the storms of the world together, go through the ups and downs, and survive the dark nights hand in hand, never leaving, that is the happiest life.
For women, once they identify their significant other in their hearts, they will not give up easily.
No matter how difficult it is, she will face it with her partner.
As long as he never leaves, she will be dependent on him for the rest of her life.
Therefore, the happiness that women want is actually very simple.
That is the attentive companionship from a man, no matter whether the other person is poor or rich, tall, short, fat, thin, black, ugly or handsome.
As long as the other person does not leave her easily, she will feel satisfied and have a sense of security in her heart.
After all, no matter how wronged she is, as long as she thinks and sees that the person she loves is always by her side, she will have more courage and strength to move forward.
However, things are unpredictable and life is unpredictable. It is normal for women to want each other’s company.
But if the scale cannot be grasped, it will often turn into a desire for control, which will make men have the idea of escape.
Let me tell you a true story:
I have a male colleague, Donald, who is a little older.
But he has never met a suitable candidate for marriage, so he has been in a love window.
At a party organized by the company, Donald met a female friend from another company: Emma.
Later, the two had some contact at work and business, and gradually became friends in life, and finally became lovers naturally.
However, after they were in love for more than a month, Donald told me that he was very unhappy in this relationship, although he still loved Emma.
I ask him why?
He said that being with Emma made him feel a sense of restraint.
He said that when they first fell in love, they were still very happy, but not long after, Emma asked him:
No matter where he goes, he must report to her in advance. He thinks Emma is too sensitive and neurotic.
Also, once Emma discovers that he has contact with the opposite sex, she will get to the bottom of it…
Donald felt that it was too tiring to get along like this, and he also felt more and more constrained.
As for Emma, she didn’t realize there was anything wrong with her behavior at all.
On the contrary, she felt that only by doing this, her beloved would not leave her and she could truly feel safe.
To be honest, if a woman wants to find security from a man through “control”, she may be disappointed in the end.
I really want a man who won’t leave me and won’t control him all the time.
Rather, we achieve our goals through care, charm, and mutual growth. If you don’t know how to put yourself in someone else’s shoes, you will eventually run counter to your original intention.
A smart woman will do these three things to make a man inseparable from her. That is:
One is not to control men, but to attract them.
The second is not to take him too seriously.
The third is to know how to think from others’ perspective.
In real life, many female friends believe that if they want a man to do without them.
He must keep a close eye on them and hold them firmly so that the man cannot escape from his grasp.
In fact, doing so will be counterproductive. The more you try to control a man, the more he will want to escape in the end.
Not only will he not listen to you obediently, but it will also make him want to escape from you faster, and finally lose control completely.
From a psychological point of view, when you try to restrain a man in a controlling way, it will cause him to have a rebellious psychology.
He may behave better and be more obedient in the beginning. This is entirely because a man cares about you in the beginning.
Once he recognizes the fact, supervise him everywhere and restrict him everywhere.
He will let his complaints and hatred gradually fill his heart, unable to see any advantages in you, and finally run away.