Love at first sight exists, but it’s relatively rare. Most love develops when two people understand each other.
Before becoming a couple, a man and a woman must first become friends of the opposite sex. After spending more time together and having enough communication, they will consider each other’s personalities and whether they meet certain conditions.
However, some couples, before confirming their love for each other, end up in undesired relationships due to special circumstances. Afterward, the woman feels like she got a raw deal, and the man feels he should take responsibility.
In this situation, will they become a couple? Let’s hear their honest thoughts.
A: “If It’s My Fault, I’ll Take Responsibility”
When I’m with a friend of the opposite sex, I always maintain a safe distance. If I don’t have feelings for her, I definitely won’t be ambiguous with her.
Even if I’m single, I won’t just casually become a couple with a girl I’m not really into. Love must be mutual for both to be happy and have the potential for a future.
If, due to special circumstances, I have an undesired relationship with a female friend before our relationship is confirmed, as a man, I’ll definitely take responsibility for her. Of course, I’ll also try to treat her well and try to like her.
B: “If We had sex, We’ll Definitely Become a Couple”
Girls should be protected by men. If I take advantage of her, no matter what, I’ll definitely take responsibility for her, and we’ll become a couple.
Love is just like that. Even if I liked someone before, after spending time together, I might gradually lose interest. That’s why many people date several times before getting married.
So, even if I didn’t like her from the start, once we’re in a relationship, I’ll definitely spend more time getting to know her and discovering her strengths. Then I’ll work hard to fall in love with her.
It’s difficult, but at least we should give each other a chance. Maybe there will be a good outcome.
C: “If I Don’t Like Her, I’ll See If There’s Another Way to Make Up for It”
I’m very absolute when it comes to feelings. If I don’t like a woman, I won’t have much to do with her in daily life. I don’t have many female friends in my life.
Under normal circumstances, I don’t think I’d end up in an undesired relationship with a woman I don’t like. If that happens, I think I might have gone mad.
Of course, even if this happens, we might not become a couple.
It depends on both of us. First, I need to see how she feels. If she doesn’t like me, I’ll make up for it in other ways.
Even if she likes me but I don’t like her, I’ll analyze each situation separately. I won’t force myself to accept such a relationship.
D: “We Might Become a Couple”
I’m a bit introverted, and I’m quite shy around the opposite sex. Even if I like a girl, I won’t boldly pursue her. I’ll keep my feelings to myself for now.
I don’t know if she’ll like me with my personality. But I’m a traditional man. If we have an undesired relationship, I’ll definitely take responsibility for her. Feelings can be nurtured. Even if I don’t love her, as long as I don’t dislike her, it’ll be fine.
Our parents’ generation had arranged marriages. They didn’t have the right to decide for themselves, but they’ve been married for decades. My parents’ relationship is still good, and they’re very happy together.
E: “I’ve Been in This Situation Before and We Ended Up as a Couple”
Once at a party, we all had a bit too much to drink, and a few girls got quite drunk. In the end, it was us guys who had to take them home.
The girl I took home already had a good impression of me, but she hadn’t said anything. Later, under the influence of alcohol, our relationship progressed. As a man, the next day, I took responsibility and asked her to be my girlfriend, and she agreed.
I wasn’t very confident at the time, but I thought, let’s take it step by step. It wouldn’t be right to just leave.
Fortunately, her personality was good, and I slowly grew to like her. Now we’re married. Perhaps I was lucky in this situation and met a good woman.
Of course, I hope everyone maintains a safe distance when interacting with the opposite sex and doesn’t engage in undesired relationships. If it happens, the man should bravely take responsibility.
F: “As a Man, I’ll Take Responsibility”
Traditionally, when there’s a relationship between the sexes, it’s usually the woman who gets the short end of the stick, and the man takes advantage.
So, personally, unless it’s intentional on the woman’s part, the man should take responsibility. It doesn’t always mean you become a couple, and it doesn’t mean you have to get married.
You can spend time together and see if you’re a good match. Maybe it will work out. Even if it doesn’t, it’s better to break up than to not take responsibility from the start.
Men generally take pity on women in these situations. Women are naturally shy. If the man doesn’t take responsibility, it could leave a lifelong impact on the woman.
After hearing these honest opinions from the men, I think most men will definitely think of their responsibility first.
For men, if you don’t dislike the other person, take your time and give each other a chance. You might have an unexpected outcome.
If you find yourself in an undesired relationship with someone before confirming your relationship, don’t avoid it. Face the situation. Since it happened, you need to face it and face your own heart.
Of course, in general, when interacting with the opposite sex, it’s important to maintain a good relationship and avoid such unexpected occurrences.
For men, it’s important to control yourself and your behavior, and not to hurt each other in a moment of impulsiveness. As a woman, you need to maintain your integrity. In these situations, firmly say no to the man and be careful in your interactions with the opposite sex to avoid getting hurt.