Is marrying a wealthy man a ticket to happiness? Different people may have different answers to this question.

While marrying a rich man can bring many comforts since money often resolves most life conflicts, the key to a blissful marriage with a wealthy partner lies in equality. Only when both of you are on equal footing can the marriage flourish.

Recently, a friend wrote to me about her experiences in two marriages. Here is an excerpt from her letter:

In my first marriage, we were each other’s first love after graduating from college. I thought we would live happily ever after, but in the third year of marriage, our relationship hit rocky waters. Love and marriage are indeed different.

Marriage involves more than just love; it intertwines with daily life responsibilities. Due to our jobs, we neglected our family. I blamed him for his lack of care, and he criticized me for being unreasonable. Our relationship deteriorated, leading to a peaceful divorce in the third year of marriage.

After the divorce, many relatives and friends tried to set me up on blind dates. However, I was cautious about starting a new relationship. I focused on my career and desired a mature and stable partner for the future of my family and work.

Later, I met a man 15 years my senior at work. He was successful, romantic, and mature. Despite my initial reluctance due to our age gap, he persisted in pursuing me. I gradually accepted him and, after two years of dating, we got married. He promised to treat me well for a lifetime. I gave up my career for him and became a full-time homemaker after marriage, taking care of our family’s daily needs.

Initially, everything was harmonious. However, his attitude changed for the worse after I became pregnant. He spent less time at home, communication dwindled, and he made excuses to stay out. When I discovered his suspicious transactions, our conflicts escalated.

I tearfully confronted him for his infidelity, but he responded callously, belittling my contributions to the household. His words shattered my heart, revealing his true colors. I realized I could not live in such a demeaning relationship.

A month later, I filed for divorce, unwilling to waste my emotions even with a child on the way. He swiftly agreed to the divorce terms, and I left the mansion pregnant.

Critics said my decision was wrong, but I believe otherwise. I refused to continue a life devoid of self-worth. Through the divorce, I learned that a woman’s career is her backbone. Regardless of anyone, one should never forsake their career.

Only when a woman becomes independent will men respect her. Many women face similar challenges in marriage, a journey filled with trials. To find happiness, a woman must not compromise on two things:

Never Give up Self-Improvement

Shakespeare once said, “Hasty marriages seldom end well.”

Don’t lose yourself for a man. Strive for excellence in life, not slavery to love. As you grow, so will your life.

Uphold Your Career

Ding Yangguo stated, “Marriage is the tomb of love. After marriage, prevent yourself from moving graves and others from robbing them.”

Men may promise to provide, but few can truly commit post-marriage. Men love independent and brave women. Do not surrender your backbone for anyone. It’s a woman’s best choice.

Marriage is a gamble for every woman. Marry love, and you’ll be happy for a lifetime. Choose the wrong person, and your life will spiral into chaos.

In love, men’s sweet words cost nothing. Don’t be easily swayed by love. A rational approach to love ensures lasting happiness.