Recently, I received a message from a friend:

She fell in love with her male colleague, and the two had a good relationship with each other, and they were even somewhat ambiguous. But this boy already has a girlfriend. She originally wanted to stop her losses in time, but when faced with the boy’s teasing, she silently chose to have an underground affair…

She herself never expected that she would become the third party in the relationship!

They could only be intimate in secret every day, and the boy enjoyed clandestine love, but she was almost driven crazy by this “hidden” feeling.

Let me first explain:

If feelings make you uncomfortable, please get out of them in time!

Even if Cheating gives you a certain pleasure, don’t get carried away…

Why do you say that?

Let’s talk about Cheating today…

Cheating, easier than you think…

Most of the Cheating we have witnessed comes from bloody movies and TV dramas…

Not less in real life.

It’s because Cheating in reality is much more secretive than in movies and TV shows!

Some people think that with the invention and application of the Internet and instant messaging, people’s communications have become more frequent and more private. While it brings convenience to people to communicate, it may also provide a perfect shelter for “cheating behavior”…

For example, Ashley Madison, a well-known dating website in Canada that was once very popular, publicly provides a dating platform for married people with the theme of Cheating.

They even used the slogan “Life is short. Have an affair”.

After the website was hacked that year, there were rumors that the information of 37 million users might have been leaked. These 37 million massive users are enough to prove how attractive the excitement of “Have an affair” is!

In addition, the hidden nature of the Internet has attracted so many people to taste the forbidden fruit.

In addition to physical cheating, there is also “spiritual cheating”.

For example, the two manage their family relationships very well, and are very attentive and true to their lovers, but at the same time they maintain an overly close relationship.

This kind of cheating without substantive behavior is more complicated, because it is difficult to define to what extent it is considered to be truly deviant cheating…

Just like the color spectrum changes, there is always a gray transition area in the middle.

Everyone’s sense of boundaries is different. Some people think that emotional ambiguity or mental cheating is considered acceptable, while others think that sexual relations are considered sufficient.

However, one thing is easy to be sure of —

If there is an ambiguous beginning, it is easy to get stuck in it!

What psychology does this desire come from?

People are complex beings, and Cheating’s psychology is also different…

First, there are emotional problems and the needs cannot be met.

If emotional and physical needs are not met in a relationship, it is easy to seek release and satisfaction through an affair. “Cheating” results from the combined action of internal lack and external stimulation.

In the classic movie “The Lost Dreams”, the heroine is in the confusion and pain of family life, and the male protagonist passing by brings her a sense of freshness.

Under the combined influence of the two psychology, she fell into an extramarital affair.

Although the movie depicts this relationship as poignant and moving, in the final analysis it still leads to tragedy due to emotional crisis and external temptations.

Second, pursue excitement and desire.

This kind of Cheating psychology may have nothing to do with feelings, it may be the result of short-term desire or even the impulse to hunt for beauty…

Just like the Cheating-themed social networking site mentioned earlier, it uses the gimmick of “marital infidelity” to stimulate users, so that desires that cannot be satisfied through ordinary dating platforms can be satisfied through Cheating behavior…

This type of cheating may also be accompanied by psychological or physiological disorders. The compulsive nature of this disorder means that they can only release physical and mental stress through cheating behavior. Such people need to make an appointment with a psychologist!

Third, rebelliousness and revenge.

Revenge also often serves as a motive for Cheating’s infidelity.

For example, if one of the lovers cheats, the other may want to retaliate in kind. Some people even cheat on multiple people at the same time to consolidate their dominance in other people’s relationships.

Friendly reminder: This method is not advisable!

There are too many cases where emotional revenge has turned into illegal crimes. Rather than losing eight hundred dollars like this, it is better to stop the loss in time.

Fourth, different regional cultures.

The customs and culture of some areas are somewhat tolerant of Cheating.

According to a survey, more than half of Russian men and a quarter of women admit that they have cheated on their spouses. For Russians, after an extramarital affair is discovered by their spouse, it is most effective to use financial means to compensate for the emotional trauma.

Japanese men generally believe that cheating is not a serious problem, and they adhere to the principle that “as long as you pay, it is not unfaithful.” Correspondingly, Japanese women also often avoid problems by saying “as long as it’s safe, it doesn’t matter.”

An addiction that cannot be broken, a nightmare that cannot be escaped…

People who often cheat or cheat will face this kind of confusion——

“Cheating is like an addiction, I can’t help it…”

If you indulge in the excitement and freshness of Cheating for a long time, your psychological and physiological needs for desire will become deeper and deeper. Normal life communication can no longer meet the physical and mental needs of such people, and then you will have a feeling similar to “addiction”…

In addition, Cheating, in addition to excitement and pleasure, also has pain.

Just like the girl who complained, her underground cheating behavior with her male colleagues brought her a lot of pain. If the two of them fall deeper into the trap, their reputation and personality will be seriously damaged if they are exposed in the future!

When you obtain “happiness”, you also pay a corresponding price for it.

Write at the end:

Never test human nature, because human nature is too complex…

But the reason why people are human is that they can rationally deal with the contradiction between their own desires and real life, even if they have to “stop with etiquette” and tolerate the past!

Because there is some pleasure, it will inevitably turn into a tragedy of drinking poison to quench thirst.

Cheating Cheating is not simply a legal and moral issue. When faced with desires and temptations, never let it go blindly for pleasure.

A truly beautiful relationship should not be accompanied by hurt and deception…