Everything has two sides. Sexual liberation makes the relationship between the sexes more equal and open, and troubles also arise. Many women cannot tell whether their suitors are looking for short-term companionship or are seriously considering long-term development.

After investing in real feelings and even giving a lot, I realized that the other person just wanted to have sex. After the passion, all kinds of coldness, avoidance, or even disappearance. Such experiences make them full of doubts and low self-esteem in future relationships, and they dare not invest easily, and even no longer believe in love.

In fact, the relationship that brought them frustration is not considered true love at all. Don’t let love take the blame. Maybe, people just want to have sex, at most they like it a little bit, but there is no trace of love?

So, how to tell whether a man’s pursuit is just to have sex, or whether it’s like, or whether it’s true love?

It is undeniable that a considerable part of love begins with sexual attraction, or is attracted by a certain trait and leads to liking. Later, through contact and interaction, it slowly sublimates into true love. Therefore, even if you just want to go to bed or have a little liking at the moment, you can’t kill it at once. It’s hard to say that it won’t develop into true love in the future.

This article only talks about how to judge the current situation. At least you must have an accurate understanding of the current situation. As for how to develop in the future and whether to continue, you must make choices based on your actual situation.

1. Three stages of men’s emotional development

Normally, men’s emotional development will go through the following three stages: “sexual” interest, liking, and love.

When a man loves you, it will inevitably include his sexual interest and liking for you.

But the converse cannot be true. A man who is sexually interested in you may not like you, let alone fall in love with you. This is also the so-called separation of sex and love. Relatively speaking, men are more likely to do this than women.

Of course, as mentioned before, it is not ruled out that in the future, as our understanding deepens, we will really like or even fall in love.

The length of the above three stages is different for everyone.

Relatively speaking, the more mature a man is, the more clearly he can distinguish his own status.

Men who are less mature or lack love experience can easily be confused about the situation and mistake sexual interest for love. So much so that after being in love for many years, I just don’t have the motivation or desire to get married. If the woman urges the marriage, the soft-hearted one will get married in a daze, and then fail to invest, contribute, or fulfill her responsibilities in the marriage. In fact, it’s just that we haven’t entered the stage of true love yet.

In reality, there are also people who are not in love, but can still be a good husband and father. That is a great expression of responsibility and conscience. Most of them lack happiness in their hearts.

As far as the comparison between men and women is concerned, due to biological genetic reasons, most males have the instinct to “broadcast seeds” in order to leave as many offspring as possible. Therefore, men will be sexually interested in a complete stranger, and are more likely to like women. But there is still a long way to go to reach the level of love.

Also due to biological genetic reasons, females have to shoulder the important task of giving birth to offspring and need to carefully select their mates. Therefore, women are not easy to like, but once they are attracted, it will soon turn into love, strengthening the emotional connection between each other so that future generations can get more solid support.

2. Performance characteristics at different stages

Men have different specific performances in the above three stages, based on which a rough judgment can be made.

(1) Sexual attraction stage

1. He will look for opportunities to get close to you, intentionally or unintentionally creating opportunities for physical contact in an attempt to test and express his sexual interest in you. But note that at this stage, he won’t care too much about your feelings. Even if you don’t like it, he won’t be afraid. He’s not afraid that you will be sad or angry.

2. He will praise or even compliment you, but it is superficial and not necessarily out of true feelings, but to please you, make you pay attention to him, and have a good impression of him. And people who really like you will praise you from the bottom of their hearts.

3. A man who is only sexually interested in you cannot stand rejection and will no longer persist after being rejected a few times. After all, you are not that important to him. If you get an appointment, it is better. If you don’t get an appointment, just change to the next target.

4. A man who is only sexually interested in you does not care about your inner world, emotions, and joys, nor does he care about your pursuits and goals in life. He only cares about whether you are happy during the time you spend together. And when you are sad and frustrated, he doesn’t want to touch you, let alone worry about you. Because all he wants is happiness.

5. A man who is only sexually interested in you will only think of you when you appear or when he has desire.

(2) Like stage

If a man likes you, in addition to taking the initiative to approach you, appreciate and praise you, he will also behave in the following ways:

1. Will listen to you carefully and take your words to heart. Especially in situations with many people, so many people are talking, but he will pay special attention and care to what you say.

2. They will always like to look at you involuntarily, some will stare at you, and some will just observe you secretly.

3. Will find various excuses and opportunities to contact you and inquire about your situation and daily life.

4. A man who likes you will think of you sometimes, but not all he thinks about you when he has free time.

(3) Love stage

1. When a man falls in love with you, he will have a strong desire to understand your spiritual world, and he also wants you to understand him. I want to know more about your inner self, such as thoughts, ideas, three views, etc., not just external conditions or daily life. He is more attracted to your inner self.

2. When a man falls in love with you, he will definitely care about your feelings. He can give in in order not to make you feel uncomfortable, and he will not deliberately neglect you to make you sad, because he will feel sorry for you.

3. A man who falls in love with you cares more about your inner growth and is willing to help you grow. I hope you become a better person and live a happier life.

4. The man who falls in love with you is willing to take responsibility. Many questions about responsibility come to mind, such as planning for a shared future.

5. A man who falls in love with you will think of you whenever he has time. When you accidentally see something or a place, you will also think that it is something you like or have been to.

3. Can money be used to measure love?

In love stories, there are often scenes where men spend a lot of money to please women. Can love be measured by how much money is spent?

It is true that a man will not let his beloved woman feel wronged, and will give her the best within his ability, and will be willing to spend money and effort for her. I can use cheap ones, but I can’t bear to see my woman use inferior ones.

But does anyone who is willing to spend money for you necessarily love you? Of course not. How much you spend doesn’t necessarily tell the story.

For example, a billionaire buys a necklace worth hundreds of thousands for a woman. Another man from a working-class family with a monthly income of 5,000 yuan bought a necklace worth tens of thousands yuan for a woman. Can we say that those who spend more money will definitely love more? Even if a billionaire buys a mansion as a gift, he would not dare to say that it is true love. After all, money is not his scarce resource.

Of course, nothing can be the same, we can only explore some basic rules. On this basis, specific analysis must be based on actual conditions.

I wish girls no longer be blinded by appearances and find the person who truly loves you!