One day I saw a question: “Besides blood relatives, have you ever been truly loved by anyone?”

What’s your answer?

I am quite serious sometimes. Before answering this question, I would like to ask what is true love? If we don’t understand the concept of true love, we are afraid that some people will regard the sweet words during intimacy as true love.

For me, the answer should be Yes, but I’m not sure. Although there has been no window period since adolescence, can it be considered true love? I doubt it. Maybe it has the potential to develop into true love, but without having fun together and going through ups and downs together, I don’t think it will reach the level of true love.

Now we are happily married, and my husband is very kind to me and my children. Although there will be disagreements and quarrels, I am so virtuous and capable. I am very satisfied to meet a man who indulges me so much.

Even so, I’m still not sure if it’s true love.

Does he love me? It should be love. But is that true love?

have no idea. Perhaps, if it were another woman, he would treat her so kindly as long as she became his significant other.

Sometimes, you can’t tell whether a man’s kindness to you comes from your own uniqueness or from his innate kindness.

If you want to figure this out, the only way is to really try it with another woman, and in this case, it will be meaningless if it is not proved, because he is no longer your husband. After thinking about it for a while, I have no solution.

People in real life may rarely be so sincere. Anyway, my husband is okay with me, good to my children, and has a sense of family responsibility, so he must love me. You said he would do this to anyone who became his wife? So what, it’s not like I have a good eye…so it’s good to have a simple mind, and not waste so many brain cells on useless things like I do.

Milan Kundera wrote in “The Unbearable Lightness of Being”: “For him, love is a desire to surrender willingly to the will and control of the other person.”

According to him, true love is so difficult. I have yet to meet a man who is willing to completely surrender to my will and control. Even if he has really surrendered, he was not willing from the beginning. There must have been struggles and compromises in the process, not to mention “desire” .

But women are so strange. If there is such a man who is 100% submissive to her from the beginning, it will not be easy for her to really fall in love with him. She may seek the feeling of being pampered by him, but it will be difficult for her to fall in love with him. he.

From this point of view, first resisting, then slowly compromising, and finally completely surrendering, is a perfect state.

Having said this, I don’t know if anyone can understand it. It seems a little too weak. The following are three more practical clues that I think can prove to some extent whether it is true love. Although those who meet the conditions may not necessarily be true love, those who do not meet the conditions are definitely still far from true love. Perfectionists who are obsessed with love can refer to this.

1. If a man truly loves a woman, he will definitely have a desire to protect her. Not just simply not letting you be bullied, but also not being able to bear to see you unhappy. As long as you are happy, he is absolutely willing to make some compromises, concessions and even sacrifices for you. Therefore, if he doesn’t pay much attention to your emotions and doesn’t care whether you are happy or not, no matter how affectionate you say during intimacy, it won’t count. Just listen to the love words spoken during intimacy. Sometimes they are just a way to stir up the atmosphere and seek good cooperation.

2. Most men are sensitive to money. When a man really loves a woman, he will very much want to spend money for her. This willingness is not to prove anything in exchange, but simply to dedicate to her the most precious thing he has. . Of course, there are a few men who don’t value money. In short, they will dedicate what they value most.

3. If a man truly loves a woman, he will definitely want to get involved in her life, hoping that he can take care of her on both a material and spiritual level, and that his presence will make her better. If a man’s care can make a woman happier, he will feel a great sense of satisfaction and accomplishment. This sense of satisfaction is the reward, rather than expecting the woman to bring him any other reward.

Of course, if you are really lucky to meet a man who loves you so much, it does not mean that I support you relying on this true love to only take and not give.

Maybe the man who loves you doesn’t care whether you give equally, but I believe everything in the world has a cause and effect.

When we secretly wonder whether a man is truly in love, do we first ask ourselves: “Have you ever truly loved anyone?” If not, why should we expect true love from others?

If your man doesn’t meet the above three criteria, don’t be sad, it’s normal, just like we ourselves will weigh the pros and cons in a relationship. The hot-headed and desperate times will pass, and any normal person will inevitably have to make small calculations in his mind.

Besides, who stipulates that true love of the opposite sex is a necessity?

First, we must love ourselves. Moreover, we have the love of our relatives. Wouldn’t it be great to add one or more heterosexual relationships that are similar to cooperative relationships? As long as both parties are happy and mutually beneficial, and you and I are willing to do so?

It’s really not good for me to be idle and think about things like this. It’s better to integrate into the bustling secular life in a lively way.

Seeing more clearly does not mean being intolerant. Only when you have seen through it and can still be tolerant can you be truly free and easy!