They say:

“Distance makes the heart grow fonder, but sometimes distance doesn’t necessarily make things better.”

Many years ago, there was a writer named Tagore who wrote a popular poem. The title of this poem was “The Farthest Distance in the World.”

In love, sometimes there can be a great distance between two people, and the feeling of wanting but not being able to obtain it can be very tormenting.

However, some people after getting married may also have issues with distance between them. For example, some couples, after getting married, find themselves drifting apart, leading them to sleep in separate beds for an extended period.

Marriage requires effort, and so does nurturing the relationship between two people. If a couple sleeps in separate beds, it is likely that unexpected things, such as cold wars or divorce, may arise in the marriage.

Do the feelings of married couples who sleep in separate beds long-term turn sour? Sometimes they do, sometimes they don’t. Here are the heartfelt words of three women.

Feeling of Souring

Ms. White mentioned that ever since she and her husband started sleeping in separate beds, she felt that their relationship had turned sour.

According to Ms. White, if two people truly love each other, they wouldn’t sleep separately. Even when facing great pressure, they would hold each other tightly.

When she married her husband years ago, he was a poor man. At that time, she didn’t see him as poor but considered their relationship very important.

She was willing to give everything for her husband, but he couldn’t reciprocate the same. After they had a child, her husband, in the interest of getting good rest, placed her and the child on a different bed.

Every night, Ms. White had to stay up all night taking care of the child, unable to sleep, while her husband slept like a log in the next room.

Ms. White had to take care of the child and go to work the next day. Her husband had a relatively easy job, starting at 8:00 in the morning until 6:00 in the afternoon.

Ms. White felt that her husband didn’t care about sleeping separately or share responsibilities with her. It felt like she had the child alone, leading to resentment in her heart.

She expressed deep disappointment over the years. Even after having a child, she was placed on a different bed.

Therefore, this relationship had long turned sour.

In a relationship, if two people face challenges, they must help each other. When a couple has a child, they should take care of the child together instead of pushing the woman to a separate bed.

Both men and women desire a good night’s sleep. The child belongs to both of them, a testament to their love. So, all responsibilities shouldn’t fall solely on the woman.

If a man keeps shifting all responsibilities to the woman, eventually, she will lose heart in the relationship.

Relationship Unchanged

Ms. Yao also sleeps separately from her husband.

The reason Ms. Yao and her husband sleep separately is that her sleep quality is poor, and her husband snores, disturbing her sleep. So, they decided to sleep apart.

Ms. Yao felt sorry for being selfish in wanting a good night’s sleep, leading to sleeping separately from her husband. She still believes she loves her husband, and he accommodates her, so their love remains unchanged.

Although they sleep in separate beds, sometimes when her husband wants to hug her or sleep together, she doesn’t refuse.

After marriage, some people may discover that their partner’s snoring affects their sleep quality.

If your partner agrees to sleep separately, you should respect their decision, as they are considerate. Many people have poor sleep quality, and being unable to sleep is very distressing. If someone snores next to you, it can lead to sleepless nights.

When someone’s sleep is disturbed, it can affect their mental state, even with earplugs to block out noise.

Feeling Conflicted, Unsure if Feelings Have Changed

After sleeping separately from her husband, Ms. Jin has been conflicted, wondering if her husband still loves her or if she is full of doubts.

Even though they sleep apart at night, her husband still makes breakfast for her and prepares face wash for her in the morning, showing his affection. But when he chooses to sleep separately at night, she doubts him.

This woman feels confused and seeks advice from friends, but no one can give her a definite answer.

Sometimes, when a man sleeps separately but is caring in daily life, it’s hard to discern if there’s a change in feelings, leaving women in a state of uncertainty.

For a woman, if a man doesn’t take the initiative to approach her after sleeping separately, she may feel he has lost interest. Women and men may have different perspectives; a man might think that since they sleep separately, he doesn’t need to seek her out, while a woman expects him to approach if he loves her.

In life, a woman tends to be more conflicted, whereas men often move on after doing something. This leads to ongoing contemplation for women.

Sometimes, even when living separately or sleeping apart from a man, a woman might still have feelings for him, but at times, she may resent him for sleeping separately, causing inner conflict.

Will the feelings of married couples who sleep in separate beds long-term turn sour? The above are the responses from three women; some feel the relationship has soured, while others feel unchanged.

In reality, sleeping separately isn’t crucial; what matters is that the partner still cherishes you. In many cases, couples may have different dreams while sleeping together, but compared to having different dreams, sleeping separately with maintained affection is better.