Why do men cheat?

I know a doctor who has a girlfriend, but he is looking for female students outside. Why is this?

Extramarital affairs are all about sexual behavior. Don’t use love as an excuse. To put it bluntly, animal nature has defeated human nature, or there is no human nature at all. Why do couples who have been married for many years, men betray their families? Why is this?

There are many reasons. It does not mean that as long as a man chooses to marry a woman, the two will fall in love for a lifetime.

After all, everything is changing, not to mention the relationship between the couple? When the passion fades, a man’s boredom with women will also appear.

Rather than saying “Cheating” is an unexpected thing, it is better to say that it is the result of men’s dislike of the old.

A male friend left me a message and told his story:

My wife and I have been married for six years, and our son is three years old.

At that time, my wife and I had no relationship. We just felt that as we got older, we needed someone to live with.

Married life is neither salty nor dull, but there are also many contradictions and problems.

For example, the wife is too frugal, nagging at everything, doesn’t like to do housework, and it’s difficult to communicate with family members…

I met Leila during our bickering days.

At the beginning, I just “adjusted my life” with a playful mentality.

Then, after long-term contact and intimate relationship with Leila, I found that we have “very similar views”. As long as we stay together, we have a lot in common.

I think Leila is my true love. Although she even had an abortion and divorced due to domestic violence, I didn’t mind at all. I just felt sorry for her and didn’t find any way to protect her.

I’m afraid that I desperately want to be with Leila, but I don’t dare to divorce considering the fact that we have a child under three years old at home.

I am very conflicted and painful about this now.

First of all, do not criticize him morally.

I just think: This reader has not thought about what he wants?

Since there is no love between you and your wife, why did you get together in the first place? Since you can’t let go of your children, why would you betray your family?

This is not what a mature man should do. Because such behavior shows no sense of responsibility at all, let alone what love is.

I think, not really.

To this day, cheating in marriage is common. Despite the promises made when they got married, men cannot resist the temptation of the outside world and betray their families.

In reality, there are far more derailed and out-of-control love affairs than we imagine.

However, the funny thing is that many men feel that they cheated because of true love.

Extramarital affairs occur because two people are inseparable and their souls are in harmony.

But the question is: Will Cheating really meet true love?

1. Betrayal is not love. Don’t take Cheating for granted.

First of all, let me express my personal opinion: betrayal is not love.

Because marriage is recognized legally, but extramarital affairs are a breakthrough both morally and legally.

There are always men who will find various excuses to excuse themselves: they have no relationship with their wives, they just want to relieve their loneliness, it is just a temporary impulse…

These excuses are just “sentimental” expressions of men covering up their desires. Betrayal is betrayal, and there is no need to take it for granted.

A female colleague once described her husband’s “deeds”:

My husband and I had been married for one year, and he cheated on me. After I found out, he said that woman was his true love, and he wanted to be with that woman even if he married me.

I agreed.

After all, I have my own thoughts, and I can’t stand a man saying he loves other women in front of me.

After the divorce, he complained to the woman, but when he had nothing, the woman left him without any regret.

But he was still heartbroken over it.

In this regard, I deeply feel that true love is a joke.

If you say you love, you will fall in love; if you say you fall in love, you will fall in love.

Maybe, this is where Cheating belongs.

As adults, we should have distinguished the relationship between interests and emotions long ago, and we should draw a clear line between the two instead of confusing them.

The trivial matters behind cheating are not much more noble than the feathers in a marriage.

Meeting true love after cheating is the most witty and humorous “cold joke”.

In psychology, true love consists of three factors: passion, intimacy and commitment.

Indispensable. Therefore, every time a man thinks he has met true love, he might as well think about whether these three factors are present in your relationship.

Never regard physical impulse as a love union.

2. Extramarital affairs are when passion is regarded as true love.

I saw a post before:

I am 35 years old, have 2 children, and feel like I am falling in love with a colleague at my company.

The client and his wife have been married for many years. After giving birth to children, the wife became a little frigid.

As a normal man, he has normal needs and will inevitably find opportunities for himself to satisfy his selfish desires.

In his extreme “lack of love”, he fell in love with a young and beautiful female colleague.

With his female colleague, he can regain the long-lost passion in his marriage.

For this reason, he felt that his female colleague was his true love and wanted to divorce his wife.

Do you find this infuriating?

This is not love at all, but lust.

Of course, the most appropriate way to put it is to regard the desire for a young body as true love.

This would be a misleading fallacy. Men talk too much about true love, so much that they make themselves think that extramarital affairs are their destiny.

But, how long can this passion last? A married wife cannot restrain a man, let alone a third party who is only together based on passion?

In this society, there is never a shortage of young and beautiful women. If a man falls in love based on sight, then he will have countless thoughts and actions to pursue “true love”.

After all, this is the nature of men: always making excuses for their mistakes, but never reflecting on their contempt for morality.

3. The biggest characteristic of extramarital affairs is fantasy, 99.9% of it is fantasy.

Cheating cannot save men’s unsatisfied hearts, because they are always leaving and looking for a relationship that makes them feel comfortable.

Fantasy is just fantasy after all. Only when all the good things are shattered will men realize that extramarital affairs are poison and marriage has become the ruins of mistakes.

The reason why extramarital affairs seem beautiful is not because they love each other passionately.

It’s because both men and women just take what they need, disguise their feelings, try their best to cover up their bad sides, and only show their good sides to each other. Such as a young body and a burning desire.

These are the illusions we draw as moths to the flame.

Even so, men will still risk their lives and put themselves in dire straits.

In fact, when the passion dissipates, extramarital affairs will ultimately fail to bring us happiness.

Because a man loses his family and the trust of his relatives, and even in the end, a third party will abandon him because of his predicament.

In this world, beauty is always just and not against morality.

Therefore, cheating “love” will not end well. Because marriage is never equal to love, the essence of marriage is responsibility, and cheating is just desire.

If possible, I hope you will not fall into the whirlpool of extramarital affairs. So, be fine.

Extramarital affairs are not true love.

When you betray your family and try the pleasure of Cheating, you are destined to have deviated from the right direction.

Don’t take the human heart too simply, and don’t take true love too cheap. Do you think: Men and women without any emotional foundation can stay together for a long time based on only impulsive passion?

This is just a joke.

Whether it was in the past or now. There have always been cases of betrayal of the family, but few of them ended happily.

Don’t try anything that gives you pleasure in the short term. After all, happiness requires practice, especially happiness in marriage.

For the rest of your life, I hope you have love and expectations, and find your true love in this troubled world.