Extramarital affairs are no less than a war, and everyone involved cannot escape unscathed. War kills the body, but extramarital affairs kill the heart.

Killing the heart sounds very cruel.

According to one interpretation, it involves exposing and accusing a person’s thoughts or intentions, using sensitive words to provoke them, or completely destroying their personal will using their most beloved things or people, causing them to mentally collapse and lose hope in life.

In fact, this interpretation is also extremely fitting for extramarital affairs.

When a marriage is invaded by an external enemy, no one can escape unharmed.

The process of an extramarital affair coming to light is also a process of intense inner struggle.

During this period, the straying partner continuously provokes us with their words and actions, causing the tree of marriage, for which we have poured our hearts and souls, to teeter on the brink of collapse. We also have to endure the third party’s constant taunts and blows.

At this point, you are constantly on the verge of mental collapse, inevitably losing hope in life.

Yesterday, I saw something that deeply disturbed me.

A man who had an extramarital affair consoled his wife in this manner: “Without her, I might have done even worse things, and might have even given you some disease. So, don’t hate her; it’s my nature.”

He also said: “I’m safe and healthy now, and she and I are as close as siblings. Forcing us apart would cause us both great pain. Her willingness to love me without status is actually a way to protect me, shielding me from unknown women. I hope you can see this from a different perspective.”

Although his words sounded calm and unremarkable, each one struck a chord.

In this man’s consciousness, there is no sincerity, whether it’s towards his wife or the other woman.

First, he said that without her, he might have done even worse things. This implies that without her, he would still seek other women, perhaps even carelessly finding someone from the nightlife scene. This is a man’s true nature, so just accept it.

Next, he said that he would be very unhappy after breaking up, and being with the other woman now “protects me from unknown women.” The implication is, as a wife, can’t you show basic understanding and empathy? Finally, he bluntly told his wife to look at the situation from a different perspective.

What perspective should the wife take? Should she look at it from the perspective of not loving you, or from the perspective of loving you?

I think, as his wife, it’s precisely because she loves him from any perspective that she feels so unwilling and resentful.

I deeply admire this man’s skill at distorting the truth and being eloquent. Clearly, he was at fault, but he deliberately glossed over, and even avoided, his own mistakes. His words all conveyed the meaning of “it’s for the good of my wife,” as if he had done a great deed.

But if it were the wife who had an affair and made the same demands of the man, would he accept it?

Do unto others as you would have them do unto you. If you can’t do something yourself, how can you force others to accept it?

If you knowingly cause harm, that’s like stabbing your wife’s heart, over and over again. Each stab is a blow to her heart.

The man has killed his wife’s heart, and naturally, she feels uncomfortable. They will find their husband and make a scene, and some will even go to their husband’s workplace, preventing him from working, causing his career to suffer a setback.

They will also confront the other woman. Some wives will publicly confront the other woman and even engage in a battle of wits with her.

Of course, most wives choose to be tolerant, even though their hearts are broken. They grit their teeth and persevere for the sake of their family and their original faith.

Is the other woman who doesn’t seek status or recognition for the man really so considerate? Maybe not.

The man initially wanted his wife to stay, while keeping the other woman at arm’s length.

Who would have thought that the other woman would suddenly appear and disrupt everything, like lifting a stone only to drop it on your foot.

Love is caring and warm, not using love as an excuse to put a man in a difficult situation and leave him in an extremely passive state.

This isn’t genuine love; it’s a disguised form of destruction.

That’s how extramarital affairs are. The man kills the wife’s heart, and the other woman goes on to kill the man’s heart. In the end, both parties suffer, and there is no good outcome.

Speaking of outcomes, we have to mention a person, but I won’t say their name. This person set a negative example for the man, and now, in old age, should be enjoying family happiness. But look at him; his son is a disappointment, his daughter doesn’t acknowledge him…

Even if he has a successful career, what does it matter? Even if he is wealthy, what does it matter? Who can share his joy? Who can have a heart-to-heart talk with him?

In the end, this man can only swallow his bitter fruit.

Not only does he have to pay for his past promiscuity, but he must also endure the condemnation of his conscience in his remaining years, which is even more terrifying than someone stabbing his heart.

When regret stabs his once lustful heart in his lonely years, the heart truly grows old, and may even wither from depression.

There is no greater sorrow than a withered heart. Therefore, everyone in a marriage should protect their original intentions and maintain their initial longing and loyalty for love and marriage. Because none of us can afford to get hurt, and none of us can afford to lose!

Extramarital affairs, this double-edged sword, may bring temporary pleasure to your body and mind, but in the time that follows, both your mind and spirit will have to pay a heavy price for that pleasure.

So, should you choose “heart,” or should you choose “desire”? I believe you can make your own judgment.