In the past, people often said: “Rely on yourself rather than on others.”

Sometimes blaming yourself is better than blaming others.

In relationships, many women, after being hurt, lose trust in others in their next relationship. They may carry the pain from the previous relationship into the new one, which is unfair to the new partner.

In the entertainment industry, there is a star named Alice. She had some emotional entanglements in the past, and many felt sorry for her when she broke up with her partner.

Later, Alice went through another relationship, but last year, news broke that they got divorced.

At this point, many people sympathized with Alice online.

If you keep facing unhappiness in every relationship, it might not just be others’ fault. Smart people know they have their own issues to address, like not being loyal in relationships or not being able to identify bad partners.

Excellent women, besides being loyal in relationships, also have the ability to filter out bad partners when choosing a mate.

Chen said: “I won’t compromise too much in marriage.”

Chen was once a popular actress known across the country. She starred in many TV dramas, gaining even more fame through roles in Jin Yong’s dramas.

Chen later married a wealthy man, considered a member of the elite society.

Despite her success, Chen’s marriage didn’t last, and they eventually divorced, with Chen compensating her ex-partner due to their daughter.

Chen later married her current husband and is now leading a very happy life. Some women have the ability to filter out bad partners. Even if they marry someone, if they realize the person is not right for them, they will leave and find someone else.

So, if you find your partner unsuitable, it’s better to end the relationship early.

Smart women don’t fear making mistakes in marriage; they fear repeating them. If you keep making the same mistakes, you’ll suffer more. If your partner hasn’t made fundamental mistakes but just makes you slightly unsatisfied, you can overlook it. But if they cross certain boundaries, it’s time to move on because you’ll be the one suffering in the end.

I was with a friend who fell for a guy, a very handsome one. She had high standards and rejected others who pursued her.

However, she fell head over heels for this guy and always wanted to be with him. One day, she found out he had ambiguous relationships with several other girls, which changed her view of him.

She believed that a man who keeps ambiguous relationships with several women is a bad guy and should be avoided, no matter how much you like him.

I thought my friend was overreacting, believing people can change. But later, I realized she was right.

As we grew older, my friend became very selective in finding partners. Sometimes she encountered bad guys but always left when she did.

Some people are natural filters for bad guys. These women are usually very capable and unlike those who stick to one person regardless of the circumstances, even if it jeopardizes their own happiness.

Smart women never stick to the wrong person. They leave when they see it’s not right, ensuring their future happiness. Marriage is a big deal, not something trivial.

Some people think ambiguous relationships with others don’t matter, but they realize its importance only when they are in a committed relationship. Don’t expect someone to change after marriage; if you do, you are risking your happiness. Women can’t afford to lose in love.

Excellent women have their own opinions when choosing a partner. A man who is not loyal and uses tricks to deal with women might seem good to those with less experience in relationships, but a capable woman won’t think so.

Some men still think about their exes even when with someone new, sometimes contacting or meeting them.

When a woman realizes her partner is like this, she should know he is indecisive and might change his mind easily—a bad guy.

A capable woman will cut ties with such a man. Procrastinating will only ruin her happiness.

Men who are indecisive in relationships are usually bad guys who disappoint many women. Capable women will leave such bad guys. Indecisive women will be manipulated by them.

Emotions are crucial for women. Choosing the wrong partner can be very damaging. So, as a woman, learn to filter out bad partners. Marriage is like a rebirth for women, so choosing the right man is crucial. Capable women are often filters for bad guys and have unique views when selecting a partner.