Now everyone says that infidelity is the same as domestic violence, only zero times and countless times.

In other words, once someone cheats, there may not be any timely correction, and more and more frequent cheating often follows.

The most unbearable thing in a marriage is the betrayal and deception of the other half, because once cheating occurs, it seems that the relationship is no longer cherished by others, so it is inevitable that it will end. It’s just that once you cheat, you have to be responsible for your own actions. Everyone is an adult. It doesn’t mean that you don’t need to be responsible for everything you do.

Throughout our lives, we will face various external stimulations and temptations. The most important thing is to maintain our original intention, rather than falling in love with everyone we meet. The most important thing for people is to learn self-control. If you can’t even If you can’t control yourself, then this kind of life is meaningless.

This is what happened to my friend Cathy. Cathy was tired of her current stale marriage. Despite a lot of ideological struggle, she still chose to cheat. After she was tired of playing, she didn’t want to return to the family, but she found that she was addicted and couldn’t control herself.

Let’s take a look at her story…

Cathy works as an agent in a real estate company. Every day, she has to deal with all kinds of people. At that time, she also chose this job because of her personality. Cathy is a woman who loves adventure and pursues excitement. , she likes to socialize and deal with others, so she thinks this job can allow her to come into contact with all kinds of people.

Cathy and her husband, John, met through a friend at the time. When they got married, Cathy felt that John was honest and kind to her, so she married John. But after the marriage, Cathy felt more and more that the days with John were really boring. John was originally a man with a relatively conservative mind, so in the days after the marriage, he could not give Cathy the freshness that she liked. Feeling and excitement.

After getting married, Cathy’s daily life revolves around family and work. John didn’t give her the feeling she wanted, and after a period of time like this, Cathy couldn’t bear it anymore. Cathy thinks she has outstanding looks, but her husband does not appreciate her outstanding appearance, but others can appreciate her.

At this time, Cathy felt that her marriage was simply boring. But fortunately, her work can still bring her a little fun. At work, she can meet many different types of people. Especially men with many different personalities. She desperately wants to enjoy some of the missing feelings in her marriage.

Once, one of Cathy’s clients was very fond of Cathy, so under the constant pursuit of this male client, Cathy was tempted. There is no doubt that she cheated on her husband during marriage, but Cathy will not stay with the same man for a long time, because she is not a person who is content with the status quo. She wants to seek more excitement and freshness. So, Cathy started I have found my own way of cheating, constantly changing the object of my cheating, looking for different freshness.

And Cathy’s husband has never doubted her. Because Cathy has done something wrong, she feels guilty for her husband John, so she is getting better and better towards John. As for John, he has never doubted her. In fact, his wife has already cheated on her.

In this way, Cathy, who is still young and beautiful, has been pursuing what she wants on the road of cheating. And by virtue of her youth and beauty, she has indeed won the favor of many men. The intellectual Cathy, Yu Walking beside all kinds of men, only at this time can she feel her own value.

Soon after, Cathy became pregnant. Although she cheated frequently, she was certain that the child she was carrying was indeed her husband John’s.

After being pregnant, Cathy did spend a period of time peacefully. She also thought about living a good life with her husband John after giving birth to the child, because she also knew that she could meet a man who treated her sincerely. , and it was really not easy. She knew that John was really kind to her without selfish motives, and she was very content with it. So the pregnant Cathy secretly made up her mind that after giving birth to the child, she would never do anything to disgrace her husband again.

But Cathy couldn’t control herself. After giving birth to the child, her figure returned to its previous shape, so she started his cheating again, especially after giving birth to the child.

Since both husband and wife are becoming parents for the first time, some things may not be handled well, and the conflicts between the two will become more and more frequent. The quarrels between the wives are also frequent, and such a married life , which also made Cathy’s idea of cheating even stronger.

She cheated on John when he was good to her. Now that there are conflicts and gaps between the couple, she is even more eager to get a hint of the feeling she wants from the cheating partner.

Cathy got the feeling from her cheating partner that her husband could not give her, so she gradually became obsessed with the excitement of cheating. All the determinations I had made were left behind.

Cathy is a mother. Every time I had an affair after that, although I felt sorry for my children and husband from the bottom of my heart, I couldn’t control myself every time.

Even Cathy was able to enjoy unprecedented excitement every time she had an affair. She became more and more addicted to this feeling and couldn’t help herself. But she clearly knew that what she did was wrong, but she always wanted to pursue this feeling. Seeing her child growing up day by day,

She is now 36 years old. According to Cathy’s own statistics, she has cheated on her almost 17 times in ten years of marriage. But she could only say helplessly: “I have cheated on her 17 times in ten years of marriage. I am addicted to eating secretly. I really can’t control myself.”

Unable to control herself, Cathy could only allow herself to betray her marriage again and again. In doing so, she was not only sorry to her family, husband and children, but also to herself.

It’s just that the anger can’t be contained after all. One day, Cathy’s husband and children will know the things she has done, but by that time, whether they will forgive Cathy, the result can be imagined. It’s just that Cathy lets herself go so freely, without restraining herself at all, and does whatever she wants. One day, you will still hurt yourself.

If Cathy could have a little more control over herself, she might not have allowed herself to behave like this, but instead she allowed herself to indulge in her own temper and pursue more and more excitement. Then one day, she might lose her husband’s love for her. trust, and the child will be disappointed in her.

In a marriage, cheating is absolutely not tolerated. Because marriage is always based on mutual honesty, if you cheat and are not so loyal to your significant other, maybe such a marriage can only exist for some other reasons. As for love, maybe Just disappeared. It’s just that for the sake of the children or the parents of both families, the marriage may continue to exist in name only.

In our lives, everyone will encounter various external temptations. If you can’t resist even a little temptation, such a marriage will be too insecure. Of course, marriage is not full of surprises and freshness every day.

Marriage is just a warm harbor that can provide us with a warm haven after we get used to the hustle and bustle of the outside world. What each of us needs to do is to be loyal to our marriage and our significant other, because the most basic thing about marriage is to be honest with each other.