“Marriage is like a walled city, with people outside wanting to come in and people inside wanting to get out.”
Before getting married, couples always want to stick together, even making time for each other when busy.
After marriage, even seemingly inseparable couples end up drifting apart.
Some couples, although not drifting apart, find their feelings growing dull after marriage.
It’s often said that marriage is the grave of love, which paints a vivid picture.
Love is an art that requires passion, while marriage requires stability. Love is between two people, but marriage involves a family.
Those who were once attracted to each other may not necessarily have a good marriage after tying the knot.
Because of this, most people no longer believe in love, especially women who no longer trust men.
However, there are exceptions. A man who truly loves you will still treat you well under the routine of marriage.
In everything we do, some people stay true to their original intentions, while others forget them. Love is no different; some men, after falling for a woman, learn to stay true to their feelings, even when life becomes mundane. Men who truly love you won’t let you down, no matter how routine life gets.
Cherishing You
A man who truly loves a woman will cherish her even after marriage.
Some men become indifferent after marriage, thinking that no matter what they do, the woman won’t leave. This leads to complacency.
If a man truly loves a woman, he should show his love within the marriage. Although marriage can be dull, love should naturally shine through.
When a person loves someone, their gaze towards that person changes. Even in a mundane marriage, a man’s gaze towards his wife remains unchanged.
So, women who believe that men lose interest after marriage may realize that those men never truly loved them. Genuine love doesn’t fade after marriage.
Accompanying You
In stories like that of Xu Xian and Bai Niangzi, even after marriage, Xu Xian still wanted to accompany his wife.
While this is fiction, in real life, many men still make time to be with their wives even after marriage.
I remember a teacher once said in high school, “Women can never understand men. They want men to accompany them but also want them to make money.”
If a man truly loves a woman, he will be there for her, even if she doesn’t expect it. When you love someone, you are drawn to them and want to be by their side.
So, if you feel that the spark has faded after marriage and that you no longer want to be there for each other, it may just be an excuse. Marriage requires effort, and complacency will lead to its demise.
Caring for You
A man who truly loves a woman will take care of her even after marriage. Some women notice their boyfriends’ extra care before marriage, like preparing hot water and brown sugar when they have cramps. But after marriage, they realize the man never truly cared because he doesn’t do the same when they are in pain.
A man who genuinely loves a woman will always want to take care of her. Taking care of a woman is a lifelong commitment for a man, not just a temporary gesture.
Some men are kind and attentive before marriage to win the woman over, but this doesn’t necessarily mean love. Women should be cautious before marriage; some men might only pretend to care.
Concern for You
A man who truly loves a woman will still care for her after marriage. Many women develop depression after giving birth due to a lack of attention from their husbands. Men may not notice the emotional changes in women, leading to issues like depression.
After marriage, a man who loves a woman will always be attentive. Even if he provides material things, he should also understand the emotional needs of his wife.
Men may sometimes seem inattentive due to their nature, but when they love someone, they pay attention to details.
If you notice a man becoming indifferent or pretending not to understand you, it may indicate that he never truly loved you. Women fear marrying the wrong man just as men fear choosing the wrong career.
When looking for a partner, women should be cautious. If you realize you married the wrong person, it might be too late to regret it.