What High Emotional Intelligence Women Want to Tell You: How to Handle Your Husband’s Shortcomings in Marriage
After getting married, Yang Ying became a stay-at-home mom. Many people advised her to give up, saying that being a housewife is not a good thing. However, for her husband’s sake, she persisted in her choice.
Ten years into their marriage, Yang Ying didn’t become the typical “housewife” that people often imagine. Instead, she became happier, and many friends found it unbelievable. They thought that a woman who could hold on for ten years must have suffered a lot in love.
Many friends would say, “You must have suffered a lot in your marriage.”
Every time Yang Ying faced her friends’ doubts, she would smile and respond, “No, it’s normal to have conflicts in marriage, but what matters is how you solve the problems.”
When her friends asked about her secret to happiness, Yang Ying would smile and say, “It’s about learning to handle your husband’s shortcomings cleverly.”
Understanding Men
Chen Guo said, “The best marriage is when you make mistakes together and then forgive each other.”
Men need understanding too. No one is perfect, and husbands and wives will inevitably have conflicts. As women, we should learn to give men more understanding. Only then can our emotions become more solid. If we don’t understand, we’ll only complain, and our emotions will eventually disappear.
Men face pressure at work and in life, and sometimes they feel overwhelmed. If they encounter a woman who is willing to accompany them during difficult times, they’ll feel exceptionally comforted. No matter how much they suffer outside, if they can get understanding and care from their partner when they return home, they’ll feel exceptionally warm.
Understanding is essential in human relationships. When you understand, your love will become more solid. If you only complain about life’s trivial matters, your love won’t last long.
Don’t Criticize Men
Yu Qiuyu once said, “In love, the ones who are exhausted are always the main characters, and the ones who are hurt are always the supporting actors.”
Men already have a hard time shouldering the responsibilities of a family. If they face criticism every time they return home, they’ll feel exceptionally frustrated.
Many women, after getting married, might despise their husbands for not being capable enough and compare them to other men. But this approach is completely wrong.
Because sometimes, we should learn to think from our partner’s perspective. If this man is really useless, as you say, then why did you marry him in the first place?
Every person has their strengths. In relationships, we often feel unhappy because we don’t discover our partner’s strengths.
When two people are together, conflicts are inevitable. We should learn to understand each other when problems arise. If you always criticize this man, depriving him of confidence, he’ll eventually drift away from you and not want to interact with you.
When a woman gives a man support and confidence, he’ll become more dependent on her, as he can find his true existence through her.
Don’t Nag
Some women, after getting married, like to nag their husbands, always using the excuse that they’re doing it for their own good. However, true love is not about constraining, but about giving each other freedom. If you restrict your partner too much, conflicts will arise.
Smart women never restrict their husbands, but instead give them time and space. When you nag too much, your husband will easily become anxious.
Life is not easy for anyone, and men also have their struggles and hardships. If we don’t learn to empathize and only nag, the man’s love for you will gradually decrease.
Why do some men want to escape after getting married? The fundamental reason is often the woman’s nagging. Some women hope that their husbands will change for the family, but they don’t realize that change is mutual. When you ask your partner to change, you should also learn to change. Only then will your love become more meaningful.
If you hurt each other in the name of love, your emotions will eventually produce huge problems and conflicts.
No one is perfect, and every man has the potential to be a good husband. It’s up to the woman to educate and guide him.
In reality, high emotional intelligence women know how to manage their marriages, which is why they’re exceptionally happy.
Many women, when facing their husbands’ shortcomings, might become anxious, but this approach is actually the most foolish.
Because when you’re impatient with your husband, his inner tolerance is also limited. If you don’t learn to manage, your emotions will face a huge crisis.