When people hear about older single women, many tend to avoid the topic. In most people’s minds, they consider older single women to be a group that’s better left alone.

Especially in the eyes of men, they often think that these women either have some quirks that men don’t like, or their standards are too high, making it pointless for men to pursue them.

Many people have said that women before the age of 30 are eager to get married, and every relationship is geared towards marriage. But once they pass 30, women seem to suddenly become more accepting, feeling that it doesn’t really matter whether they get married or not, and even if they’re in a relationship, they won’t rush into marriage.

In life, this seems to make sense; when women are young, they often fantasize about marriage. Especially when they reach their late twenties, there’s a kind of anxiety, worrying that they won’t get married and end up unable to find a partner.

But when women are in their thirties, their entire mindset changes. They become more accepting of marriage and even more so of love. If it’s fated, it’s never too late to get married, and if it’s not meant to be, they won’t force it, and they’ll just love themselves.

In short, their view of marriage is “better to be single than to be in a bad relationship.” After all these years, they don’t mind waiting a few more years.

I once saw a question: Why do older single women feel that marriage isn’t as appealing?

Some say it’s because they haven’t met the right person; some say it’s because they have good qualities and have been picky, leaving themselves single; and some say it’s because they’ve been deeply hurt in the past and are afraid to touch love again, resulting in their age increasing.

One very special response caught my attention; it was from a 36-year-old older single woman. Whether it was her parents or friends, they were all worried for her, afraid that if she waited a few more years, she wouldn’t be able to get married and would become a lonely old woman.

But she wasn’t worried at all and even said, “In my previous relationships, I’ve experienced true love, played around, hurt others, and that’s enough, whether I get married or not, I’ve come out ahead.”

In her view, the greatest purpose of marriage for women is to have children, to have a legitimate reason to have children. But she doesn’t really want to have children. She feels that she still has a lot she wants to do and wants to invest her time in herself, not wanting to have her plans disrupted by a child.

She’s afraid that she might fall in love with a man who insists on having children. In this regard, she feels that marriage is not important.

Of course, she also said that if she really meets someone who amazes her and makes her love passionately, she would be willing to get married and have children.

Fate is always so strange. When we were young, we all wanted to find someone to spend our lives with. But at that time, we thought everything was too simple, thinking that as long as two people loved each other, they could overcome all difficulties and get married and have children smoothly.

We forgot that marriage requires a strong foundation, such as the couple’s values, lifestyles, personalities, as well as material conditions and parental opinions. As long as there’s something unsuitable, the couple will choose to separate, always feeling that there’s still time and that they’ll eventually meet someone who’s suitable in every aspect.

And so, we experienced giving our all in love, hurting others, being hurt by others, and even approaching relationships with a playful attitude.

Without us realizing, our age has increased, and we’ve lost the capital of youth.

After experiencing so much, older single women have become more accepting. They’ve experienced everything they needed to, have no regrets, and feel that they haven’t lost out. After all, the right person has never appeared, and they no longer have a strong desire to get married. Since that’s the case, nothing else really matters.

Having this kind of mindset is not because they’re older and can’t get married, and they’re consoling themselves. It’s because in the face of reality, they have had to accept the present situation and accept the fact that they haven’t gotten married.

Time may have delayed their marriages, but it has also elevated their state of mind. They’ve seen through men’s true nature, understood the meaning of life, and used time to persuade themselves to let go of everything.

At this age, they can no longer force anything, and they won’t get married just for the sake of getting married, handing the rest of their lives over to an unreliable man. If that’s the case, wouldn’t it be better for them to live freely on their own?

Even for the average woman, by the age of 36, she should have had children. Whether it’s love or life, both have become mundane, day after day, life goes on unchanged. Some women have even chosen divorce after a failed marriage and have gone back to single life.

For these older single women, compared to those who are married, they simply lack a marriage certificate and haven’t had children. But they are living life freely and confidently, and won’t feel aggrieved because of marriage.

Compared to the happy women in marriage, older single women may seem unfortunate, but for the unhappy women in marriage, they are fortunate.

Every woman has her own unique choices and way of living, whether or not she enters into marriage. As long as she lives a life that she loves, it’s the happiest and luckiest life to live.