We are living in an era of “fast food romance,” where love can easily begin in any way and end quietly for any reason.

For relationships, getting close quickly can lead to a lack of security and stability, resulting in greater risks.

If a romance fails, it may lead to doubts about love and a lack of self-confidence, making you think that every romance will have a bad ending and that you are not worthy of love.

But it’s not that. It’s that you entered into a wrong romantic pattern from the start.

Only through observation, empathy, and communication can you determine whether to start a romantic relationship rather than considering nothing and hastily beginning a relationship.

So, before starting a romance, what aspects do we need to understand to judge whether the person in front of us is suitable as our romantic partner?

1. Whether They Truly Like You

In simple terms, it’s about whether the other person genuinely likes you or is just playing around. Generally, the other person’s feelings towards you can be divided into two types: “emotional liking” and “rational liking.”

The former refers to pure emotional attraction, a selfless devotion without any calculation.

The latter refers to calculating value, weighing the pros and cons before deciding whether to invest.

Many people’s relationships exist only in emotional liking—they get hot-headed and feel like the leading lady in a drama, throwing themselves into the relationship for love without any reservations.

The cost is that when the emotions fade and rationality takes over, you will certainly be disappointed in the relationship and quickly break up.

A truly long-lasting romance must have both emotional liking and rational liking. It can give you the passion to quickly decide to start a romance, as well as the long-term motivation.

So, the specific manifestations of this type of romance are:

• Tiptoeing around
• Fluent in words is a prey, hesitation is liking. This saying is not without reason.
   In most people, emotions can indeed influence decision-making, leading to behaviors that are different from usual.
   This cannot be hidden.

As a result, you will find that experienced individuals in the dating scene become nervous about their skills not working, while bookworms become nervous about not understanding romantic gestures.

They cautiously approach and communicate, fearing that any misstep might cause your disgust.

• Making promises to you
• Willing to sacrifice for you
• Persistence
• Utilizing all available time to be with you

The characteristics that attract each other long-term provide the continuous motivation for your relationship to move forward.

But the premise is that these characteristics must be genuine, not something the other person has imagined.

2. Whether the Personality Is Suitable

This is an important factor in determining the quality of your romantic experience. Even if you like each other, if the experience is not good, you can only “love without getting.”

So, when getting to know someone, please focus on understanding:

• Whether they are extremely paranoid
   This includes being overly dominant, chauvinistic, restricting personal freedom, and mentally oppressive behavior.

• Whether they are good at solving problems
   If the other person is not good at solving problems, or even good at escalating them, then even if the two of you love each other, you will only be able to share pleasure, not suffering together.

• Whether they have a pathological attachment type
   Pathological attachment types mainly refer to anxious and avoidant attachment.

Anxiously attached individuals do not feel love and trust from their partners, but rather a “love hunger.” They hope that the other person can save them or make them more “complete.” Despite their intense desire for intimacy, they always doubt and fear that the other person does not want the same level of intimacy. They seek reassurance through clinginess and control.

People with avoidant attachment types have one thing in common: even if they are in a relationship or married, they still feel like they are alone deep down and always maintain a certain psychological distance when with their partner, ready to withdraw from the relationship at any time.

It is very tiring to be in a relationship with these attachment types. The former completely depends on you and is always suspicious, while the latter is completely aloof, making you feel like they never loved you.

• How they treat others besides you

Many women are blind when it comes to their partners.

As long as the other person meets the option of “being good to her alone,” even if he is a criminal, the woman doesn’t care at all.

But the truth is, it is precisely because of so many selfless women that there are so many deceived romantic relationships and marriages.

Because “being good to you alone” is a trap that someone can fake for a short time.

However, their character cannot be faked. If they are good to cats and dogs and everyone around them, then they won’t treat you too badly.

3. Whether Your Outlooks Are Consistent

Outlooks mainly include worldviews, life perspectives, and values.

Worldview refers to a person’s overall view and fundamental opinions on the world. As partners, you will experience many things together, or hear and see many things. Everyone’s perspective on issues will be different due to their different social status and state. As long as the two of you do not deviate too much from your own worldviews and can accommodate each other, you will basically have a consistent worldview.

Values refer to a person’s overall view and opinions on the value of things. If the values of both parties are not synchronized, it will lead to unequal situations in life.

For example, one person works to demonstrate personal value, while the other works to ensure their life is secure. In this case, friction is likely to occur, and the two are likely to lose consensus in their future lives. When it comes to fundamental issues, they will have heated arguments due to their differing opinions.

Life perspective refers to one’s view of life, as well as the purpose, value, and meaning of human existence.

In the interaction between couples, this can be manifested in attitudes towards oneself and others. For example, some people value others’ opinions, so they live according to others’ thoughts. Some people are more self-centered and only focus on their own thoughts, being less influenced by others.

So, before confirming the relationship, you must give each other a sufficient buffer period to collide in thoughts, which can often prevent many conflicts that should not have happened.

This is being responsible for yourself and respecting this relationship.

Many people find true love or are found by true love precisely when they are not focused on finding it.

Once you are ready, true love will appear.

After true love appears, goddesses must first understand the other person and carefully discern before starting a proper romance.